Collaborate without boundaries

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Tonight I sat down thinking that I would just have to admit that I didn't get the dare done today.  I have been on the run all day long and couldn't even remember what the dare was for today.  I sat down this evening to read it, and realized that without even realizing it, in a way I had already done it.  The dare read "Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.  If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you."  This afternoon as I contemplated discussing the Thanksgiving plans with DH, I decided to share 2 things with him.  First, I wanted to let him know that I would be happy to cook for his family on Thanksgiving as long as he and his family were comfortable with it.  Second, I told him that in the past, I had not taken his or his family's perspective into consideration when planning the meal.  That I had cooked what I wanted to cook, how I wanted to cook it, and that it had been wrong of me to be that way.  I am not sure that he really understood what I was saying, but I told him that from now on, I wanted the meal to be about them and not me.  I want to take his preferences into consideration when planning.  So, God gave me an opportunity to do today's dare and helped me complete it.


I had dinner this evening with a wonderful Christian woman that God brought into my life last year during a Bible study that I am in.  She looked me straight in the eye and told me that DH was not going to divorce me.  I know she means well, and she may even really believe that.  She is the second person this week that has told me that.  Is that what it means to believe the best?  Is that their way of encouraging me?  I find that statement extremely difficult to believe.  Is not believing the same as not having any expectations?  I believe God can.  I can't believe that He will.
  • God can talk and work through people. I have a lot of friends who keep encouraging me in my marriage. I am presently separated and my husband handed me more papers for divorce which I have not filled out and am not even sure if I should as I desire to reconcile. Trust Jesus can do anything as nothing is impossible. You are both in the same home. That is hopeful. I sure regret moving out. Stay close to Jesus. Tell Him your heart. I pray He is your strength. May God renew your strength. That you may soar and run and not be wearing and walk and not faint. God's word has this in Isaiah and I pray that for you tonight. Rest, peace, strength, and health to you in Jesus name.

  • Cook and don't worry about if his family is comfortable with it.  If they are that is great.  If not, then it is time for everyone to get together and become comfortable again,  The meal can break the ice and be the first step of building closer family ties.  ANd for you to show Christ's light.  

  • I don't know why she said that.  If she is saying she has a word from God that you would not divorce, if she was trying to give you hope or lesson your hurt by trying to say something nice to hear, or what.  

    Not having expectations in this trial keep us from being hurt when our expectations aren't being met, keep us from trying to have our  expectations being met by us taking control and trying to fix things instead of relying on God, and for us to keep from trying to pull their car up to ours.  It is to keep us focused on Christ instead of our wants.

  • I don't know why she said that.  If she is saying she has a word from God that you would not divorce, if she was trying to give you hope or lesson your hurt by trying to say something nice to hear, or what.  

    Not having expectations in this trial keep us from being hurt when our expectations aren't being met, keep us from trying to have our  expectations being met by us taking control and trying to fix things instead of relying on God, and for us to keep from trying to pull their car up to ours.  It is to keep us focused on Christ instead of our wants.

  • Having no expectations is keeping us relying on Christ's comfort instead of expecting our spouse to be our source of comfort.  It teaches us that, in our relationships, to not get so discouraged and frustrated with people when they fall below our  expectations.  

    Believe God can.  And believe He will do  what's best for you since you love Him and believe He knows what you need more than you do and He will fulfill that need sometimes even before you realize it is  fulfilled.  

    yes, those thoughts can get all intermingled and mixed up.  So, those are the thoughts that came to me.  

    Believe the best.  In what God has to offer you.  And find peace in that.  

  • I am not saying that these people aren't getting some type of message from God to relay to  you.  I do not know.  It would be pretty cool if they were. And if so, I pray that God reveals that  to you.  

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