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R3D7 Words of affirmation

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Since Round 1, I am spending much more time in the Appreciation Room.  The list of positive things about DH is much, much longer than the list of negatives.  Today, DH went with his brother and a couple of hunting buddies to the shooting range to try out their muzzleloaders prior to the opening of deer season.  One of his buddies had bought a pair of hunting boots that ended up hurting his feet, and offered them to DH since they were his size.  The boots are really nice, pretty expensive for cold weather use.  The man was just going to give them to my DH, and DH wouldn't take them without paying something for them.  The man wouldn't take what DH offered, and so they settled on a slightly lower amount and my DH paid him.  I told DH that as nice as it was for that man to offer to just give him the boots, it was even nicer of my DH to insist on paying for them.  There are many people in this world who would have just taken them without offering to pay for them.  I told DH that what he did was commendable.  As I thought about how I completed today's dare, I was once again reminded that DH's love language is words of affirmation.  I need to do more of that.

This evening, DH wanted to run to the grand opening of a new store in town to look for some work clothes.  He asked if I wanted to ride with him.  We had a very pleasant shopping adventure.  As each day passes, I am more and more confused.  It's been almost 2 weeks since he last told me that he wants a divorce, and yet things have been better between us than they have been since springtime.  Why??  Only God knows the answer to that question.  
  • Continue to have no expectations of him..  But this does not mean to have no expectations of God restoring the marriage or having a perfect future for you.

    He's probably having a hard time processing the cruel thing he did and the kindness and patience you are displaying.  Keep doing what the dares have taught and continue to let God do the rest.  

    If/when he chooses to come back fully, and I am sure he has thought about it, he will be scared and uncertain.  So, it is crucial you remain very consistent, even if his roller coaster for some reason decides to go low for a bit.  

  • Keep trusting no matter what he chooses to do, God has already chosen to take care of you and to use this for the good of you.  

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