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R2D10 Buying cookies for God

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I had a hard time figuring out what to do for today's dare.  I help with his laundry from time to time so I didn't feel that was anything very special.  I really had a hard time coming up with something out of the ordinary.  I finally decided to go to the bakery and pick up a couple of oatmeal raisin cookies - his favorite.  I left them in his recliner with a post-it note on the bag that just said "For you" and a smiley face.  He would see it as soon as he got home from work.  When I got home from work,  the bag had been moved to the kitchen, but DH didn't verbally acknowledge receiving them.  In fact, he seemed a little more distant and quiet this evening. Close to bedtime, he asked what kind of cookies were in there.  I told him oatmeal raisin.  He did end up eating a couple right before bedtime.  He never said thank you, but I know I really didn't buy those cookies for him, I bought them for God, out of obedience.  As I was walking towards my bedroom, I asked him if the cookies were good.  He said "Oh,yeah!" and told me that there were still 2 in the bag.  I think he might have been insinuating that he had saved them for me, but I am not sure.

  • It is kind of funny to me, how our spouses will ignore or try to ignore the nice snacks, etc we get them.  It must be hard for them to resist the temptation to eat the cookies while they just sit there, knowing they are only not eating them right away just to prove a point to us and themselves.  

    I do know I frequently come across as being critical and I know I often point out things that people may be doing or thinking that aren't necessarily what they are really thinking or doing.  And I am sure it gets old hearing it.   But it is sometimes with the intent for the new person that will read your journal even years down the line.

  • If you asked how the cookies were just for a way to show unity or not to be cold shouldered by not talking to him at  all, that is fine.  But, if you  were asking to generate a positive reaction or to try to get him to speak nicely to you, then next time do not ask.  Again, I am not assuming anything was done with any intention on your part.  

    Love believes the  best, he was insinuating that you could have a cookie or two.  

  • Tim, my intention for asking about the cookies was simply to know if he thought they were good for future reference.  I had never bought cookies from this particular bakery before, so I wondered how they were.  And I think it is awesome that you are using this forum to minister to those that may come here years from now!

  • That's what I assumed as far as why you asked him if the cookies were good.  What's more important than the  replies to the journals for new people, as well as me and others that have been in this trial for some time, is seeing all of you stay consistent in standing for the marriage  and not giving up.  

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