Letting the other win consisted of letting her take the boys away again up to friends cabin up north. I preferred that they stay here hang out as a family. We are not separated but this summer feels that way as she has been spending a huge amount of time up north. We were in disagreement over this but I let her have her way in taking them up north.
This is a good dare for me. As I am not one to usually not get my way. I need to pray on this, and to put her preferences first.
My verse for today is from Romans 8
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. 19 For the creation waits in eager expectation for the children of God to be revealed. 20 For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope 21that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the freedom and glory of the children of God.
Any reason you could not join them in any of these trips?
No - other than her not wanting me to.... she needs her space.
Remember you need to start investing you time money and effort into the marriage, the family.
The more she gets her space, the less testimony you can offer.
I have been whenever we are together investing my time and energy into the family and marriage. She just keeps taking the kids away. If I forbid it it looks like i am an ogre. Advice on dealing with this?