Collaborate without boundaries

DAY 10

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I had washed his clothes on Monday or Tuesday and dried them the same day. He left them in the dryer till yesterday. I didn't want him to wait on clothes or wonder where they were, so I folded them all and placed them on his bed not expecting anything in return.

He came home and went to the restroom and then sat on my bed with me. 

We talked about a few things and then went to the kitchen to eat. 

We ended up talking more about us and started to open up more since I have been nice and my true self around him his walls were coming down a little. 

I added a comment to Day 9 after Eddie explaining some of what we had talked about yesterday. 

My heart is still hurting now from what he said, but I have to have faith that time will heal our relationship and bring our hearts back together as we both already miss each other. 

He was making sexual comments and talking about me and him which he wasn't doing before. I know that is a line I cannot let myself cross and I have to hold myself to that as he is trying to hold himself to it as well. 

He laid on the couch and pulled me into a cuddle for a few minutes because he felt he needed to comfort me from what he had said. 

I still don't know what to think, neither of us wants the heartache again, but I know how strong we would be if gave it a real chance and were our true selves together and talked about our problems when they arise instead of letting them bottle up and explode.  

 

  • He us on aroller coaster ride.  He's up and down following his emotions.  Do not follow him in following your emotions.  Look only to Christ for comfort.  Don't look for changes from him right now.  

    Things often get worse before it gets better.

    He doesn't understand what unconditional love is, or isn't willing to be in in conditional love.  The world proclaims infatuation as love.  And that's what he's looking for, infatuation.

  • All the while in the dares if you continue you will be molded to love as Christ loves.  And he may desire to have what you gained, and that's Christ.

    In one way you have it easier and harder than most of us.  Because you are not married you are not in a covenant.

  • All the while in the dares if you continue you will be molded to love as Christ loves.  And he may desire to have what you gained, and that's Christ.

    In one way you have it easier and harder than most of us.  Because you are not married you are not in a covenant.

  • Depending on how you look at this being able to let go of the relationship it will make it harder to do the dates knowing you aren't married, bit easier to lesson the burden knowing you can walk away.  Sorry, I'm sure I didn't explain that right.  But what I'm getting at is you really need to know in Christ what you should do if it becomes unbearable if it does get worse and stays that way for a lengthy time.

  • I'm not diminishing your relationship or saying things surely will get worse.  I hope not for your sake.  But be in Christ's strength in this trial.

  • You're like me and want resolution fast. God doesn't work fast though. He works in His own time. He needs us to learn form these experiences and grow. That growth takes time.

    Your husband falling in and out of love is natural but it's not involuntary. It's a choice based on circumstances. He can choose to love in any circumstances. We all can. That's something that unconditional love will teach you.

    Talk is good. What he is telling you is good. What you also need is a professional to help you out. A preacher, a therapist, a Christian. Someone who will look at marriage as a lifelong commitment because that's what it is.

    My older sister claims to be a Christian but after my wife talked to her last week she called me and was all over me. She knew nothing about what is going on because I was trying to keep her out of it but with my wife calling her and telling her God knows what my sister was mad a t me. She said I need to grow up and let my wife go and that God doesn't mind divorce when people are not in love anymore. I let my sister yell at me for 30 minutes then told her I absolutely do not believe anything she was saying. When my wife and I made vows to each other 20 years ago we said for better or for worse. The one who breaks those vows needs to grow up.

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