Collaborate without boundaries

Day 7

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Positive: 

1) Cheerful disposition

2) Always there for his friends 

3) Funny - always makes me laugh, even when I don't want to. 

4) Punctual - always on time. 

5) Naturally uplifting spirit

6) Always looks for the good in people

7) Helps those in need when able to do so

8) Enjoys nature and the peace it brings - just like me. 

9) Knows when someone is having a bad day and will do his best to help them. 

10) Listens when people need to talk or vent about whatever may be going on in their lives. 

 

Negative: 

1) Doesn't follow through with things he says he will do. 

2) Sometimes quick to anger. 

3) Addicted to video games - doesn't make time for me or family. 

4) Does not communicate anything - including emotions and will let it go until it causes an argument. 

5) Does not clean - says he doesn't know how and doesn't want to do it wrong then "get in trouble."

6) Feels like he's being scolded if he does something wrong and sulks afterwards. 

7) Does not ask if I need help with anything. 

8) Does not take the initiative on things. 

9) Spends more time with friends than with me and complains when I want to do something with him or family. 

10) Does not plan dates or do anything special for us anymore. 

11) Complains when I spend time with my family when he doesn't want to. 

  • for the negative 5 and 6, seek wisdom in what or if you are doing something to cause him to feel he will get in trouble or feels like he is being scolded.  Is there a way you can approach these areas differently?  

  • I can understand that for sure. I've shown him numerous times how I clean and like to have things cleaned and he seems to not care or just doesn't want to take the time to do it that way. Since I've been keeping up with the cleaning, I don't have to worry about it now, but taking the time to learn to do it would be meaningful to me as well.

  • Some of those negatives remind me of my old self. I just didn't see it at the time though. Unless something causes him to open his eyes to what is happening he may never see it. You guys should really try to get into a Christian marriage therapist. These are serious communication issues that a therapist can help you with.

  • I've asked him to go to counseling so we could resolve our issues, but he won't do it. :( I know I'm not the only one at fault in our relationship, but he makes me feel like it's all my fault.

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