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Can someone tell me if I’m doing what’s right?

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Hello, so like most of you I’ve been giving all my effort with the Love Dare. The story is this: I had a boyfriend wich I really love, we were going to get married. He was my best friend since I was 13 years old, and we had a beautiful love relationship then. But three months ago he brooke up with me. He said he didn’t want to complicate his life, at least now, with all that involves a relationship. Specially... the part of fighting sometimes and needing to try again to do thing better. He is tired of me. Also... he doesn’t feel prepared to be for me in the bad times of my life (as for example if I’m sad because my mother is sick). And this surprised me beacuse we really did love each other, and he was always for me. Since this happened, I took inmediatly the Love Dare, and also start praying to the Lord to save our relationship and bring him back. So... I’ve showing Love to him in many ways (most of them by email... since we don’t see each other) even though he constatly rejects me, and I see he’s confortable with being single and alone, focusing just in himself. All that I have been doing, has been with total faith. But here comes where I need your opinion. The people around me says that it’s not ok or good to show love to someone who constantly rejects me o to someone who doesn’t deserve it. That I should stop that. But by the love dare and by what I have learned from Jesus, showing unconditional love is what I believe. But since everybody criticize me, and I haven’t seen any change in Jeremy during this three months (he hasn’t change he’s mind... and he still don’t want to be with me), I ask myself... “I’m doing what’s correct or I have been crazy all this time?” Can someone guide me? I know God has a plan for each of us, but I also have faith in my Lord that anything is possible for him, and that He’s expert in what is impossible for humans. All my friends tell me I don’t love myself beacuse I keep loving Jeremy eventhough he rejects me. But I don’t think that. I think God give me this test to give him glory and love as Jesus showed. But I’m confused. Can someone tell me if I’m doing what’s right? If it’s God will.. can we have chance again to be together eventough 3 months had allready passed without any progress?

  • This is a very tough one.

    First of all your love should be unconditional. You love someone even if they reject you. Jesus Christ was rejected by many yet He still loved us enough to go to His death on the cross. Unconditional love is a beautiful concept and, even though only Jesus is capable of this, we should strive for it every day.

    Second (and this is the tough part) the Love Dare is for husbands and wives. God does not allow sexual union between unmarried couples. There is a dare in the book to initiate sex with your spouse. You don't mention anything about sex in your journal entry but just know that premarital sex is a sin. Any sex outside of marriage is a sin.

    "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

    Hebrews 13:4

  • Concerning unconditional love....When boyfriend and girlfriend I think it is okay to be conditional.  There is no covenant made.  We date to see if thee is the possiblility of having unconditional love in a marriage. Outside of marriage we can walk away from our girl or boy friend.  

    Do the dares to grow in Christ right now.  Dont worry about the outcome with him for now.  

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