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Day 3: Love is not Selfish.

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Hey all. So, this morning as I read this chapter, I was deeply moved about my own heart in how selfish it was. The excerpt, "The bottom line is this: you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself." There have been times in my marriage where I'd become irritable, frustrated, etc. because it emanated from an entitled heart. It was eye opening, and I'm presently in a state of humility and sobriety. To think that I've acted out of selfishness in marriage for my own satisfaction as a follower of Christ is so jarring.

Anyway, as the day started it was quiet. My wife began prepping for work as I was in the living room in the Word, and TLD. As she was in the shower, I made her coffee, not for brownie points, but for her convenience. After we were both more organized, and 10 mins from leaving, I had her coffee ready, and her lunch packed, and finally before leaving, she said, "Thank you for the coffee", and I later received another thank you. I mention that because she has recently only said "Thanks" in a sharp dismissive way, so upon hearing that, I was so thankful. She also mentioned how she didn't want her hair to get damaged due to the weather (raining), which I took as a brick coming off from her wall. I know she saw that the pictures were taken down so I hope that made her feel more comfortable, but I won't engage it. As I dropped her off, I just said to her as she was getting out to be encouraged with regards to her job. She said thanks, and then went on her way.

As for the purchase, I utilized my New-York-City-walk to quickly get me to Barnes & Nobles, and out of the rain while on break from work. She likes Stephen King books, so I purchased her a recent work of his along with a bookmark. I intend to give it to her tonight when I drop her off at home, because I intend to see a Pastor from our Church tonight for counseling. Please pray for God to be glorified through it all. Thank you.

  • It's good to see you are seeing where you were falling short while you do the dares.  This will mold you to love Christ loves.  Enjoy the kind words from her but let Christ know you enjoy His comfort even more.

  • Amen, Tim. Thank you!

  • Hold the book for another dare, you can give it to her as a gift for that dare.

    I think you found the LD in time, keep moving forward a dare a day.

    Did you read the Appendix about Leading the Heart?

    This principle of unselfishness is key to many things you will learn on this journey.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (GNT)

    4 Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud;  5 love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs;  6 love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth.  7 Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail.

  • Thank you, Snaz. I read the appendix about Leading the Heart, but I realized there were more pages regarding that, so I intend to read them later for sure.

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