What a great and inspiring day! "Love lets the other win." My question is this, "Do I somehow try and slowly get my fiances attention? I know he said he would never come back and if that is God's will then so be it, but with understanding more of myself now and some of the things he really wanted in our life, how will he know if I don't try to show him in some way? Right now I have to focus on me and my children and I know that is most important. There is not much I can do other than maybe send him a text or a card/letter through the mail, but with him being so angry right now, I'm not sure that is something I should be doing. All I know is that I unfortunately do not have many good advisors in my life because my family are not believers in Christ. I cannot ask his family who have become like my own family throughout our relationship because anytime I've tried reaching out to them thus far, they have not returned my messages or emails. Any advice from those of you out there that have been through what I am going through, or just feel they know whether not I should just stand still and wait or fight for keeping my family together, I would greatly appreciate. This one is difficult so I plan of praying ALOT until God lets me see his plan, wishing everyone the best and the courage to love unconditionally!
Your dealing with the prodigal spouse. Read up on the story of the prodigal son in the Bible. It should give you a better idea of how you are to respond.
Let go, and let God. He is working with your mate even if you are not in contact.
Standing and waiting on God and fighting for your family can be the same exact thing.
Thank you Jason, going straight to my very new bible and reading. God has blessed me with a new place (this site) to help me understand and try and work through the things which I am only now learning about. Thank you again!
Exactly what Jason said - Let go and Let God! I had very little contact with my husband through various points of this journey and I knew then it was God working in him. Just stay out of God's way and let Him do His thing in your husband. Praying about it is key. He will let you know when you should/shouldn't contact your husband. Continue to pray on each dare daily so you can complete it in God's way not yours.
Let go, let God is essentially saying "Let him go to God"...you're not totally letting go because you are in constant prayer for God to do His will in your husband's life...but, as has already been stated, you have to get out of the way. God sees ALL things and has an ETERNAL PERSPECTIVE. We do not. Keep your eyes on God, pray for Christian people to come into your world... girl, they will.
I KNOW I set back my healing process through my own manipulation attempting to "convince" my spouse that I had changed and things could be different. The Bible says that "unless Christ draws them" they won't likely stay. Just refocus on the foundation of YOUR walk with Christ and the Lord will guide you through whatever is ahead.
I have been separated for nearly 2 years, and my love for the Lord is stronger than ever...
I thank God for you. We are going through the same things and things are so difficult. The only way I cope is through God. He is litereally holding me up because im too weak to stand alone. Our weakness is what the Lord wants. Thank God for you