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  • her submitting? Not sure.

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    I woke up, and prayed on what to say to her or how to go about all this. no clear answers at all, on if I am approaching this right or wrong, or what to do or say next. I went to our room, a sat next to her while she was sleeping, rubbed her arm, and...
  • asked her out

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    My memory seems to be fading the last few years. Hopefully not a sign of Alzheimer's. But if it is, I know God will be with me. I am sure I am just showing my age. LOL. But if I remember, many of you had suggested I ask her out or not to be afraid...
  • daughter

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    After 12 hour work day, I drove for 6 hours round trip to get a brother's car. He flew to be with my dad while he was in the hospital and needed his car picked up. I came down with an awful cold. I got home and it was late. One daughter was kind of...
  • 1st journal

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    Sean, I was sending this to you, but it wouldn't go through. Maybe time I journalled. So here it goes. May not make sense to you who read this. to add to the above message. I stopped at a church and prayed about if I should confront her. I get the...
  • Talked

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    She came home the last two nights after 3am. Usually I never hear her come in. The first night I stayed up to pray if it was time again to admonish the behavior. I felt nothing. I prayed the next day and still not much. I had the sense of Be still......
  • in the beginning

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    Not sure why, but i think what i typed below is so dark it is hard to read. I think if you highlight it as if you were going to copy and paste it, it will be easy to read. Sorry. One of the things about this site is i wish they would change the background...
  • 3 years

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    3 years now since she threw legal separation and d at me. 3 and a half years since she said she was already d in her mind. I am no longer getting venom thrown at me, or the d word. Still many times a day biting on me, but those bites do not really register...
  • put my foot down? took control?

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    Last night, due to school activities and work schedules, just one daughter and I went to Mass, the rest of the family is going tonight. After Mass we went out to eat and then got ice cream and watched tv together. Two Saturdays in a row of doing this...
  • nearly 5 years

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    It's now nearly 5 years since in her head she considered us divorced. And 4.5 years since she told me she wanted a legal separation/d. Man, those first months/year(s) were just brutal. You guys and gals know what that feels like. But what a journey...
  • i tried

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    Got home from picking up one of the kids. i notice our bedroom light is on as i pull up to the house, which is a good indication she is going out again, which seems to be a little more frequent than it had been. I went to the bedroom as my normal routine...
  • Prayers sometimes answered quickly but always answered.

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    About prayers answered. I thought i would share something that my mom just told me. As some of you know my dad passed away less than a year ago. My mom said, she just out of the blue one evening said James (my dad, her husband), do you love me? And the...
  • she's mad

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    She stayed home last night and watched tv in bed till 330, She even stays up late when she stays home. About that time I woke up from the couch and went to bed. She had her back to me, naturally, not like she was avoiding me. I said good night and she...
  • understanding vs believing

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    I always believed or understood the power of God. And always knew He can make great changes and how miracles are possible. In fact I am very certain one of our children was born healthy due to a miracle. But it sure seems I find a lot of Thomas in me...
  • God's perfect timing

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    I have heard many times on this site about God's perfect timing. So, as most of what I say, I just repeat what I have heard others say. Kind of like a parrot. And I have now and then had a flash of a thought what is God waiting on with me and our...
  • pray for protection

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    During prayer this morning, maybe my prayers for the last day or so have been answered. I have for a few days been struggling with is she cheating, is it more than an emotional affair or friendship, not that that is ok. And it hit, things have seemingly...
  • title

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    She stayed home last Friday because she was so tired. Still going out 3 to 4 nights a week but coming home earlier than she did months ago. I ran into someone she use to work with over a year ago. She said I know you two are having problems. We need to...
  • 3 hours of anger

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    I want to say thank you to all of you who provide words of guidance and for all you who pray for this community. I want all of you to know when I read your posts of your journeys, it brings hope and encouragement. Thank you. I pray each of you has the...
  • almost said leave

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    I asked her for the checkbook to balance it. She went to her car to get it. I noticed a light flash or something and looked down. She left her phone on the table. He was calling. She came in and I had a stern look on my face that caught her off guard...
  • frustration

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    over two years of verbal attacks. Harsh words. Cutting me down to the core. And then at Thanksgiving time, it stops, she actually even says a sentence or two back to me. But the last few weeks the stress in the house seems to have gone up a bit. But nothing...
  • preacher

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    Felt i should share what happened to me today. I made a cold call, sales call, on a junky old building with no name on it. I was actually not wanting to even stop. But i did, and then wished the door was locked. It wasn't. I opened the door and entered...
  • more exposed to me

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    A sister in law called me. Her fiends caught her at a restaurant /bar with a guy that was not the guy she use to spend time with. And they were texting others seeing if we were separated. So more and more people are being exposed. I think everyone will...
  • from the last entry

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    I appreciate everyone's input. And it has clarified a little more what has been in the back of my mind. I thought i owed a response to all your kindness you have shown. To ask her to change will be throwing down an ultimatum. And a line in the sand...
  • more anger

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    From the last post to just now, things have been more on the peaceful side, still tension when we are both home. I have continued to start conversations. Yesterday she replied to one of my attempts, for a sentence or two. Other times she ignored what...
  • kitten=smile

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    i told her how the cat was trying to rub up on and be friendly with the dog. She listened, not with a lot of enthusiasm, but she didn't turn her back. I had forgotten about talking to her back, and much of the time as she was walking out of the room...
  • talk about out late

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    My birthday was Saturday. I went to my moms to do yard work for her. Then she and I watched a football game. After the game the rest of the family came over for a traditional birthday meal my mom does for each of her kids, not usually on our birthdays...
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