Collaborate without boundaries
  • her submitting? Not sure.

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    I woke up, and prayed on what to say to her or how to go about all this. no clear answers at all, on if I am approaching this right or wrong, or what to do or say next. I went to our room, a sat next to her while she was sleeping, rubbed her arm, and...
  • talk about out late

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    My birthday was Saturday. I went to my moms to do yard work for her. Then she and I watched a football game. After the game the rest of the family came over for a traditional birthday meal my mom does for each of her kids, not usually on our birthdays...
  • 5 weeks

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    Five weeks now and she has only gone out on a weekday twice. Once was for her birthday, and the second was on a thursday which i think she considers the start of the weekend. And when she comes home on weekend nights, it is sometimes as early as midnight...
  • the first big roller coaster dip in a long time

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    Things seem to have been getting a tiny bit better over the last few weeks. And the more I pray about how I gave an ultimatum, the more I feel led that I made a mistake. It was time to hold her accountable but not in that way. However, she said she would...
  • 3 years

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    3 years now since she threw legal separation and d at me. 3 and a half years since she said she was already d in her mind. I am no longer getting venom thrown at me, or the d word. Still many times a day biting on me, but those bites do not really register...
  • i tried

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    Got home from picking up one of the kids. i notice our bedroom light is on as i pull up to the house, which is a good indication she is going out again, which seems to be a little more frequent than it had been. I went to the bedroom as my normal routine...
  • put my foot down? took control?

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    Last night, due to school activities and work schedules, just one daughter and I went to Mass, the rest of the family is going tonight. After Mass we went out to eat and then got ice cream and watched tv together. Two Saturdays in a row of doing this...
  • group prayer

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    Something I have been wanting to ask of all the participants on this site is for us to pick a time out during the week, say this Wednesday, 9:00 pm eastern time zone, and we all say a prayer for God's will to be done in this groups lives and also...
  • community that prays together

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    Hi everyone. There have been a few times we as a community tried praying at the same time, once a week. So, maybe we should all start doing this again. How about Wednesday nights, at 9pm eastern time? You don't have to make it a long, drawn out prayer...
  • from the last entry

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    I appreciate everyone's input. And it has clarified a little more what has been in the back of my mind. I thought i owed a response to all your kindness you have shown. To ask her to change will be throwing down an ultimatum. And a line in the sand...
  • 2nd day after the talk of being out so late

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    All the while driving home, I prayed how do I handle this Lord, if she comes home late tonight? Do I say something to her about not coming home late? I get the thought just see what happens, and most likely I will be asleep and have no clue when she will...
  • war room and update

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    As suggested by Candie and i believe someone else on this site, I went to see War Room. It confirmed what has been on my mind lately. that i do pray, but it has been feeling lacking. Like I have been just going through the motions. It is a good movie...
  • More ups than downs I think

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    I Got her some decent gifts for Christmas. She got me nothing. But I said I had bought a lot of things lately and that'll be my present. She looked at the earnings I got her and seemed like she liked them. When we went to bed she said thanks for the...
  • title

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    She stayed home last Friday because she was so tired. Still going out 3 to 4 nights a week but coming home earlier than she did months ago. I ran into someone she use to work with over a year ago. She said I know you two are having problems. We need to...
  • 3 hours of anger

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    I want to say thank you to all of you who provide words of guidance and for all you who pray for this community. I want all of you to know when I read your posts of your journeys, it brings hope and encouragement. Thank you. I pray each of you has the...
  • first insignificant comment

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    I wanted to share with all you, my friends. As I was walking by her tonight, she shared a random, insignificant comment with me. All other talk has been basically necessary discussions on the kids or blow ups on why are we still together. I am quite sure...
  • community prayer on Wednesdays

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    Just a reminder if you can, please say a prayer at 9pm eastern time if you are able. Thanks. hey, my shortest entry ever! And probably the least amount of typos too.
  • Rejoice in God always, praise, ask, and peace above understanding

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    You all have made such great strides. Each of you said things you I don't think could have when we first met. Praise God we are all walking toward him. Candie has told me off and on for a year to set boundaries, David is honest enough to say it and...
  • more exposed to me

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    A sister in law called me. Her fiends caught her at a restaurant /bar with a guy that was not the guy she use to spend time with. And they were texting others seeing if we were separated. So more and more people are being exposed. I think everyone will...
  • staying home more

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    The last 3 weeks, including this one. She has stayed home every Mon, Tues, and Wed, and one Thurs. This, staying home so muh, has never happened in over 4 years. Well, she did go out on one of those nights. For her birthday. She brought home a box of...
  • Talked

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    She came home the last two nights after 3am. Usually I never hear her come in. The first night I stayed up to pray if it was time again to admonish the behavior. I felt nothing. I prayed the next day and still not much. I had the sense of Be still......
  • 6 weeks and prayer

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    She has stayed home now I think it is 6 weeks now, other than the weekends. I wonder if she expects me to say something about it. The other day she was saying how she had to ask for a day off of work and was telling me so if I ran into her boss I could...
  • feeling like a hypocrite

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    I woke up with one minute before my alarm went off. thought that was strange. Then i hear what is my wife again coming home at 444 am. She probably then heard my alarm go off and it seemed she was trying to hurry to bed so i wouldn't see her come...
  • not dare 38, but....

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    I asked about a week ago if we could go out for ice cream on Friday,today. Being that it is our wedding anniversary, but I didn't bring that fact up. She shrugged her shoulders and said I don't know. I left it at that and didn't bring it up...
  • on my mind for awhile

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    Not sure how to word this....During the time of my dad's illness and after he passed away, I had been extremely busy and had little to no time to come to this site. And it hit even more how much Sean means to me and probably all of us for being here...
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