Collaborate without boundaries
  • for another community member

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    I won't mention a name, but someone recently sent me a pm and said he/she couldn't come back to this site any longer. Reason being his/her spouse asked if people of the opposite sex were replying. This person was upfront and his/her spouse flipped...
  • in the beginning

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    Not sure why, but i think what i typed below is so dark it is hard to read. I think if you highlight it as if you were going to copy and paste it, it will be easy to read. Sorry. One of the things about this site is i wish they would change the background...
  • steps going forward a little more

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    i asked her earlier in the week if we coiuld all go out as a family to eat for new years eve. She said she had plans. Then quickly added that she hasn't had any plans (or has done anything ) for a long time. So, i let it go. I then asked her if she...
  • More ups than downs I think

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    I Got her some decent gifts for Christmas. She got me nothing. But I said I had bought a lot of things lately and that'll be my present. She looked at the earnings I got her and seemed like she liked them. When we went to bed she said thanks for the...
  • first hard night in a long time

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    She has been out every night for several nights, Christmas shopping, I am choosing to believe the best. Last night, I woke up out of the blue, and the thought races to me that she is out with him, because she is going out of town for a few days and will...
  • another attempt at trying?

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    I went to a friends house last night. We watched some football and I also got some work done on the computer while with him. The games were late and we talked a bit afterwards, and I ended up getting home a little after one am. She was as usual out for...
  • Todays prayers may be tomorrows help

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    We all pray for help today. And that is good. What sometimes we or at least I forget, that todays prayers build our relationship with Christ and build a foundation that will hold us up in the future. When we need that foundation in Christ. She has been...
  • the first big roller coaster dip in a long time

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    Things seem to have been getting a tiny bit better over the last few weeks. And the more I pray about how I gave an ultimatum, the more I feel led that I made a mistake. It was time to hold her accountable but not in that way. However, she said she would...
  • her submitting? Not sure.

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    I woke up, and prayed on what to say to her or how to go about all this. no clear answers at all, on if I am approaching this right or wrong, or what to do or say next. I went to our room, a sat next to her while she was sleeping, rubbed her arm, and...
  • what happens next

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    Wanted to go to bad about 3 hours ago, but want to be really tired when I sleep so then it makes it easier to stay asleep and not think of who or where she is. A friend was texting and seemed really lonely. So I went over to his house to keep him company...
  • 2nd day after the talk of being out so late

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    All the while driving home, I prayed how do I handle this Lord, if she comes home late tonight? Do I say something to her about not coming home late? I get the thought just see what happens, and most likely I will be asleep and have no clue when she will...
  • Rejoice in God always, praise, ask, and peace above understanding

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    You all have made such great strides. Each of you said things you I don't think could have when we first met. Praise God we are all walking toward him. Candie has told me off and on for a year to set boundaries, David is honest enough to say it and...
  • feeling like a hypocrite

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    I woke up with one minute before my alarm went off. thought that was strange. Then i hear what is my wife again coming home at 444 am. She probably then heard my alarm go off and it seemed she was trying to hurry to bed so i wouldn't see her come...
  • from the last entry

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    I appreciate everyone's input. And it has clarified a little more what has been in the back of my mind. I thought i owed a response to all your kindness you have shown. To ask her to change will be throwing down an ultimatum. And a line in the sand...
  • talk about out late

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    My birthday was Saturday. I went to my moms to do yard work for her. Then she and I watched a football game. After the game the rest of the family came over for a traditional birthday meal my mom does for each of her kids, not usually on our birthdays...
  • community

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    Just thought I would say thanks to all of you, be it the new kids on the block or the ones who have a little more wear on their tires. It is incredible to see each of you come to the site full of pain and suffering and do these uncomfortable dares, knowing...
  • After ice cream

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    As most of you know we went out for a quick ice cream treat. She for the about first time responded for anything at all saying happy anniversary back. Since then, she has been out of the house all day Saturday and Saturday night, only to sleep for 6 hours...
  • not dare 38, but....

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    I asked about a week ago if we could go out for ice cream on Friday,today. Being that it is our wedding anniversary, but I didn't bring that fact up. She shrugged her shoulders and said I don't know. I left it at that and didn't bring it up...
  • i tried

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    Got home from picking up one of the kids. i notice our bedroom light is on as i pull up to the house, which is a good indication she is going out again, which seems to be a little more frequent than it had been. I went to the bedroom as my normal routine...
  • 3 years

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    3 years now since she threw legal separation and d at me. 3 and a half years since she said she was already d in her mind. I am no longer getting venom thrown at me, or the d word. Still many times a day biting on me, but those bites do not really register...
  • group prayer

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    Something I have been wanting to ask of all the participants on this site is for us to pick a time out during the week, say this Wednesday, 9:00 pm eastern time zone, and we all say a prayer for God's will to be done in this groups lives and also...
  • key number two

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    She told me this morning that her car was at the tire store because she went wide on a turn and hit the curb and blew out two tires. She said she wanted to go out there and clean out the car a bit. I said I could then drop you and two of the kids off...
  • war room and update

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    As suggested by Candie and i believe someone else on this site, I went to see War Room. It confirmed what has been on my mind lately. that i do pray, but it has been feeling lacking. Like I have been just going through the motions. It is a good movie...
  • What a messy night so far

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    One daughters birthday is tonight. She doesn't want to go out with just me and her mom, she wants some of her brothers and sisters to come I guess. One daughter we at taking to her first time on campus tomorrow. A four hour trip one way. Another child...
  • Only through God

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    In the beginning of this trial, my thoughts centered on how long is this going to take to rectify our marriage. It was the first PM I sent to Sean. I predicted odds from a 1/4 of 1% to 3% that we would stay together. 40 months ago is when she said she...
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