Collaborate without boundaries
  • going out with her

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    We went out maybe a month after she hit me with wanting a d. She ordered about 4 beers all through the meal, and she left very quickly, leaving a beer and me at the table. We typically order pop or water when we go out. . We drove separately, so she could...
  • pleasant words

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    A son had a crucial meeting set up at school. I was happily surprised with her. She, who had never missed Mass growing up or in our marriage until now this trial, has stopped going to church. And who seems to have abandoned God. I heard her say to the...
  • When things get a little better

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    As I mentioned. Things are a bit better as of late. And one month shy of going on 5 years in this trial. Really longer, she says it was 6 months before she told me she considered us d in her mind. I think she has been minimally severely flirting at bars...
  • Wednesday prayer

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    For the new people that may not know. Some of us set a phone reminder for 9pm eastern standard time to be a reminder to pray for this community. Please join in and remember we can all come together through prayer, even being miles and sometimes countries...
  • a few new things happened

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    Not really sure why i feel led to journal, but will anyway. i got up and made some pretty good eggs for everyone. She was still sleeping. I brought up a plate of eggs, etc. for her to eat in bed. I"ve probably brought her breakfast in bed twice before...
  • snooping, ugh

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    Snooping, I know not to do it. And know if God wants me to know something, then I will find out without snooping. But, the flesh is weak. And mine is very weak. I left for work and thought I may have let the cat sneak out. So, as I headed from the office...
  • Did I hear His voice

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    She volunteered to work extra hours last night, and went back to work after coming home. The thought pops in my head, Why would she do that if she thinks we will eventually d. Why work above and beyond if you know that the money will be split with me...
  • a nice gesture by her

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    For some of you, it feels like your spouse will never do a nice thing for you. Keep in the dares especially being patient and kind, and there is a shot at reconciliation. But it is certain if you stay in the dares, doing them for the right reasons, you...
  • get over a struggle, there's a new one

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    Wife took a daughter out last night. I went to bed and they still were not home. I woke up at 2am to the dog barking. I saw that the daughter was home, but wife was not. She dropped the daughter off pretty late and then went back out. I have to remember...
  • the apostles and us

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    Have you ever wondered, how on earth did the apostles choose to follow Jesus? I can only imagine fishing with my brother and dad, and a stranger says a few words to me, and I am suppose to drop my net, abandon the boat, and ditch my dad, let go of my...
  • community prayer

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    For anyone new here. Some of us have been setting our phones or alarms for 9pm eastern time zone to say a prayer at the same time as each other. The intentions for our marriages, our peace in Christ, and our trust in His divine providence for all of us...
  • away for much of the weekend

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    I'll be taking a trip with her, about a 3 hour trip with her. Other than a trip we had to take together a few years ago, 8 hours?, we really haven't been in the same car for more than an hour total I bet in the last 5 years or more. A few months...
  • water heater

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    Do not take this as me having expectations of her. Or that I am assuming things are better. Or that I am taking comfort in her. But, something happened. And a thought that immediately hit me, along with thanking God, was sharing this with this community...
  • Longing

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    Remember your fist crush? how you just longed for this person. To give her a kiss. To hold his hand. To just spend time with this person? We couldn't wait to be back on cloud nine just being in their company. The days were so long until we got to...
  • the good of suffering

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    The flesh does not want to suffer. Evil says don't suffer, go ahead and get all the good and fun you can, if it feels good do it. The world teaches us from early on to indulge, don't wait, grab more than your fair share. And it gets hard not to...
  • stopped in a church

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    It's funny. We can say something over and over again and know it. And we can be told the same thing over and over and know it. But sometimes we have to live through it, or at least me the ever slow learner. to understand it. For example. I have known...
  • comfort and desire for control

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    I took a son out on an errand yesterday. I mentioned, which I shouldn't have, something about his mom, kind of saying she isn't acting like a mother or wife should. He said something like don't you get suspicious? With her being out so late...
  • what's been coming to mind

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    I have already forgiven her for anything she has done. but it has hit me the last few days. As the angels probably dance in joy when we seek Christ's forgiveness, I need to show joy in Christ if she ever opens up to anything she has been doing or...
  • out of town for a few days

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    I'll be out of town for a few days, and most likely will not have any time to check this site or even have a computer available. So, any of you that see, especially a new person hasn't been responded to, please do so. Especially when someone is...
  • continue your testimony

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    In the beginning of this I gave us a .03% to a max of 3% chance of staying married. It's now over 5 years since she considered us divorced in her mind. For those struggling, there is hope. And look at Linda GDP, if I get her full name right, journal...
  • kitten=smile

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    i told her how the cat was trying to rub up on and be friendly with the dog. She listened, not with a lot of enthusiasm, but she didn't turn her back. I had forgotten about talking to her back, and much of the time as she was walking out of the room...
  • forgiving

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    Here goes. Not sure what I am going to type till the words hit the screen. maybe just a way to sort some of my own thoughts. I got a request on LinkedIn from her girlfriend. the one that gave her a couple d lawyers' names. And I am sure got her to...
  • nearly 5 years

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    It's now nearly 5 years since in her head she considered us divorced. And 4.5 years since she told me she wanted a legal separation/d. Man, those first months/year(s) were just brutal. You guys and gals know what that feels like. But what a journey...
  • pray for protection

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    During prayer this morning, maybe my prayers for the last day or so have been answered. I have for a few days been struggling with is she cheating, is it more than an emotional affair or friendship, not that that is ok. And it hit, things have seemingly...
  • joyful moment

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    As I mentioned, she is I think coming home most nights earlier than ever before. and she is responding to questions or statements I make now and then. I still give her space, but may mention something about what happened at work or something i heard on...
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