Collaborate without boundaries

Day 9 cherished

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I'm so sad i cant handle it.  He's back yo sleeping in the floor and hurting himself, he wont use the cot.  

I'm selfish if he stays for me but tortures himself, right?

But i cant bring mysel to let him go.

 

What does that make me?  What do i do?

 

  • Trust God and find your peace in ho alone, and you can expect to be your husband to fulfill your needs only God can do that, you must find your all in Christ. Be thankful that he is still in the house.

  • Just as Josh said. Even in a great marriage spouses disappoint each other.  So our true source of peace is from Christ alone.  

    Being so sad is an indication you are putting Christ at a lower level than your husband or marriage.  When you put Christ way above  your husband, but not loving  him less, the peace you need will come.

    It's his choice to leave the marital bed.  That's  on him, not you.  He chose to divide what God says not to divide, the marriage.  

    Where you say you can't bring yourself to let him go......You aren't keeping him there.  You can not force him to stay.  He's staying using  his  own free will.  Thank God you are both under the  same roof.  

    What do you do?  A dare a day so you become molded in Christ.  Stay patient and kind.  Trust God and put your faith in Him.  And keep standing for the  marriage by staying in the dares.

  • Just as Josh said. Even in a great marriage spouses disappoint each other.  So our true source of peace is from Christ alone.  

    Being so sad is an indication you are putting Christ at a lower level than your husband or marriage.  When you put Christ way above  your husband, but not loving  him less, the peace you need will come.

    It's his choice to leave the marital bed.  That's  on him, not you.  He chose to divide what God says not to divide, the marriage.  

    Where you say you can't bring yourself to let him go......You aren't keeping him there.  You can not force him to stay.  He's staying using  his  own free will.  Thank God you are both under the  same roof.  

    What do you do?  A dare a day so you become molded in Christ.  Stay patient and kind.  Trust God and put your faith in Him.  And keep standing for the  marriage by staying in the dares.

  • We don't have the answers. God does. I know its hard and confusing because I'm so sad I sometimes can't stand it. I'm right there with you. Every answer you need is in the Bible. You have to put all your trust in God. He is amazing.

  • I know how hard it is when your spouse wont sleep in the same bed as you. I has been almost two years since my husband stopped sleeping in same bed as me. There was a point where he would lock me out of the room and I would have to sleep with our daughter or on the couch. Now since his mother has moved in with Dementia he sleeps on the couch, not because I tell him to but because that is his choice to divide us that way. I prayed and prayed and prayed about it and finally realized that is on him and that I have to let him and God work that out. I am still doing what I vowed to do and standing strong for our marriage and unity it is him that has chosen not to. It is so hard but we have to continue to find our comfort in God not our spouse. I know it is easier said than done, believe me.

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