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Day 215: Love is honorable

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Day 215: Love is honorable


Live with your wives in an understanding way . . . and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.—1 Peter 3:7



Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine. It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him. It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication. Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.


--In my “save my marriage course” I had homework to make a list of what makes it hard to “stand” and what would make it hard to just “give-up.”  We each talked about our list…this was my list:


Reasons why it’s hard to Stand:

-Costly, being financially drained.

-Listening to MB say things that are hurtful or that don’t make sense.

-Bearing more pain.

-Discarding MB’s view of our marriage and having a better view.

-Taking the blame (but knowing it’s not true).

-Shutting out what the world says about d------.


-Reconciling will be a long road.

-Working on ourselves can be.

-Being labeled a bad person.

-Managing a household alone.

-Smart contact and being a safe place.

-Not pushing her away.

-Alone on a Saturday night.

-Pushing back against a d------.

-Standing for my marriage.

-Holidays alone.


Reasons why it’s hard to Give-up:

-Dishonors God.

-God hates d--------.

-God calls me “one flesh.”

-Promise I made to MB.

-Love her.

-She is a good person.

-Turning against my values.

-It would be hard to expect favor or blessings from God.

-Walking away, moving on, d-----, I would always wonder how things would’ve turned out if I would’ve held onto hope a little longer or tried harder to work things out.

-Kids, difficult to produce Godly children if there is pain and when I (we) am (are) not setting a Godly example of God’s truths.

-He is a God that delivers, heals, and restores.

-Bella and Lincoln knowing that Daddy gave up.

-Regret that I could have done more.

-Seeing the effects Bella & Lincoln will endure later in life and knowing that I gave-up.

-Splitting time with children and grandchildren.


This point of the discussion was both “standing” AND “not standing” (giving-up) are both hard and we have to make a choice what type of “hard” do we want it to be.  There is no “easy” way forward.  For me, from day one (I think instinctively) I made the choice which “hard” I wanted to endure.  I don’t think I knew how hard it would be at the time, but I knew “standing” is the right thing to do to honor God.  As long as the Lord is with me, I could do it…God has chosen me for this, He knew I was strong enough.  Plus, I know one sure thing, standing will show to Bella and Lincoln the value of marriage, promises, strength, integrity, endurance, patience, character, and love.  I don’t want to try to teach them something that I myself cannot show.   We also talked how standing will be what makes us, and not our destruction.  I think that someday, I will look back at this time and the stand that I am taking, and see that I can overcome so much. Regardless of outcome, I believe this will be true. I hope that my choice to stand shows love is honorable not only for MB but for our God.   


I am thankful to our God for: meeting with a prayer friend this morning; Metro public transportation; and for a warm coat.



  • I love the way you post your thankfulness, don't stop doing that, it is in thankfulness that you find your strength and joy. Blessing brother

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