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If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father.—Matthew 18:19



Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.


--I wish I could pray with MB, but I know she does not want to right now….so I will continue to pray without ceasing. I do understand that while God does want to please me and answer my prayers, what He wants most is for my heart to be right.  I understand that He honors selfless prayer. That He honors marriage. That He honors growing His relationship with me and with Mary Beth individually and collectively, but I do know that the bond of our marriage is in His hands.


Dear Father God, thank you for being the God of Restoration! As revelation 20:12-15 says, You will redeem us from the pit which eternally lies below for everyone who rejects You.  Father God, I feel rejected by my wife Mary Beth.  She has left our family and does not want to pray with me and I know that disappoints You.  I know that I have a part in that and I am sorry. Father God, please help me in this time of heartache and help me to be able to continue to stand strong in the hopes that we can both be reconciled to one another. Father God, I believe that Mary Beth is not really happy inside and that the passing pleasures of sin are only temporary and she cannot suppress her conscience for very long Father God, especially with Your Holy Spirit tugging at her heart.  So, Father God, I pray, please move Mary Beth to see Your will, to see what You have in store for her, to see the purpose You have for her life.  Father God, help Mary Beth overcome any obstacles in her way to You and give her the passionate desire that we can be reconciled to one another and can give You all the glory for saving our marriage and in the name of Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.


As a side note: My lawyer is asking me to provide a response to a "Discovery" inquiry asking me to "Describe fully the reasons for any reconciliation."  I assume MB will eventually see my written response.


I am contemplating two versions that I have drafted so far:


A: The reasons for reconciliation are: obedience to God, the impact a broken family will have on our kids and their future family’s, set a godly example for our kids, no biblical reasons to not stay married (there are no divorceable offenses), I love her, testimony of our story (to glorify God and show how God loved the church), God hates divorce, problems in our marriage are fixable, long history together, respect for God and His Word; so much support for our marriage from family and friends, blessings for our marriage in abundance should we reconcile and obey God.


B: The reasons for reconciliation are: the problems in our marriage are fixable; long history together; so much love and support for our marriage from family and friends; I love her; the impact a broken family will have on Bella and Lincoln and their future family’s; a restore marriage can be an amazing and stronger marriage than before; teach Bella and Lincoln what commitment, love, conflict resolution, and compromise in marriage is all about; there are no divorceable offenses; set a godly example for Bella and Lincoln; and obedience to God.


I am thankful to our God for: getting a tough, time consuming assignment done this week for my lawyer; praying with Lincoln and Bella before school; and having a warm home.