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Day 142: Love is faithful

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I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord.—Hosea 2:20


Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, “I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”

--We are able to love our spouse when they are not deserving of our love because God has given us love when we do not deserve it.  I pray that God fill me with the kind of love only He can provide, then I can give MB love that reflects God’s love for me.  Regarding today’s dare, I have figured out that MB does not want to hear “I love you” from me right now.  So, zero contact with MB today, I did not see her today; no voice message saying “I love you” today.  Just feeling I need to be still, plus by me continuing to say those types of statements may lead MB to believe she is not being heard.   However, by me showing love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (fruit of the Spirit); all show that I still love her and care for her.  So I will continue showing those fruits and hopefully she is getting the same message as “I love you. Period.”



  • It is hard to live under the "no contact" heading. Being still is the best thing to do and the hardest thing to learn. Yes, stopping saying "I love you" does speak love, and it will speak it louder as the silence deepens. God has a plan for you and he will, because he is faithful, bring it to pass in his time.

    I would also take the time to pray about it because God may have a time for you to say I love you to her. Go into every meeting prayerfully as I am sure you always do.

  • "I love you" doesn't have to be words. There are an infinite number of ways to say "I love you" and actions speak much louder than words. Mine actually said that to me at one point. Toward the end her response to me telling her was "I know you do." That was rough.

  • Just really make sure you're not doing the dare because you have fear in doin the dare.  Not saying that's your motive in not doing the dare.  Since you did (I think 2 rounds the  best you could) I will say it's okay that you aren't doing the dares as they are intended to be done.

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