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Day 87: Love believes the best

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Day 87: Love believes the best

 

[Love] believes all things, hopes all things. —1 Corinthians 13:7

 

TODAY’S DARE

For today’s dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.

 

--From the list of positives things, I picked her passion for gardening.  Called MB about 1:30pm and she did not pick-up, so I left a message saying something like, “I was out in the front pulling weeds, and noticed how “dead” things look…not sure how you did it, but I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciated how “lively” you always made the flower pots and garden look.   Just wanted to let you know…hope you are having a nice day…good-bye!”

 

Just a quick prayer for today:  Dear God, I pray that You create in me a clean heart and renew Your spirit within me.  Father God show me where my attitude and thoughts are not what you would have them to be, especially towards my wife.  Help me to stay focused on Mary Beth’s positive attributes, like how great of a gardener she was and is. Father God convict me when I am being unforgiving.  Help me to quickly let go of any anger so that confusion will not have a place in my mind.  Father God, if there is a behavior in me that needs to be changed, enabled me to make changes that last forever.  Whatever you revealed to me, I promise to confess to You as sin.  Father God, make me a man that is modeled after Your own heart, that loves unconditionally.  Father God, help me to be the head of my home and family, just as You created me to be. Let Your will be done.  In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen!

  • Be careful about contacting her at all. I didn't listen to everyone telling me this and I did end up divorced. It pushed her away. I'm in a group on Facebook and there's a thing called Smart Contact. You have to let her do her thing and have as little contact as possible while she works through her issues. She needs to see you change, not hear about it because she will never believe it out of your mouth.

  • Thank for the comment!  Yes, I need look into and learn what Smart Contact is.  I was just sticking to the love dare (thanked her for a positive attribute) for the day (I think), but I don't want to be pushing her away.  Thank you again!  

  • As long as you're sticking to the dares and not doing any unnecessary contacting, you should be fine.  As you do the dares that God lead you to, not doing the dares would not be trusting God, Who gave you the dares.  

    But, being round 3, I see it that you can choose to limit the actual doing the dares if you feel God leads you to do so.  

    Just be careful that you aren't taking control in choosing what to do and not to do.

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