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Day 2: Love is kind

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Day 2: Love is kind

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:32

TODAY’S DARE

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

--Day 2 was “do an unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.” When I saw her while picking up the kids, I asked her if it was okay I give her a hug and she said okay. 

However, later in the day MB sent me this text message:

“Hi Adrian, I’m reaching out because I’m thinking about the hug this evening. I’m concerned that it could confuse Anabell and Lincoln. I want them to see us treating each other with kindness and respect, but I also think it is inappropriate to hug in front of the kids because it can give them a false sense of hope. Thanks for understanding.”

After getting her response text, I regret the hug that I gave on Day #2 love dare. I wish I wouldn't have done it. Although I did not intend it to be selfish, a hug can be perceived as both giving and receiving.  It’s a mistake I’ll have to overcome.  She did not rebuke me for the hug, so that is good.  She was more offended I did it in front of the kids and the emotional effect it has on the kids.

  • Don't regret loving your wife, or the unity that God instituted in marriage, that was a gesture that spoke the truth from your heart, don't let those feelings stop you from doing that kind of thing again. She knows that what she has done is not right, and probably thinks that she didn't have any other choice, so God is working on her. Just wait and let good build his testimony in you as you do the dares.

  • often times your spouse will act negatively toward whatever you do for  a  dare.  But that's okay.  And often when she acts negatively, God will use that for her good.  

    As far as the hug,that's great you see how it can be a selfish act and that's not the reason you gave her one.

    I would  not worry about it being a mistake.  Right now, everything she does can get you to doubt what you do.  Making it feel like you can do nothing right.

    It's kind of funny in a way..well not really, but they worry about such things about sending the wrong  message to the kids whereas there actions such as them wanting a separation or a d is sending a bad message to the kids.  

    We can either show our kids a good testimony of Christ in standing for our spouse and marriage.  Or a testimony that reflects selfishness, such as what  our spouses are doing.  Let your testimony shine over hers for the kids to see.

  • often times your spouse will act negatively toward whatever you do for  a  dare.  But that's okay.  And often when she acts negatively, God will use that for her good.  

    As far as the hug,that's great you see how it can be a selfish act and that's not the reason you gave her one.

    I would  not worry about it being a mistake.  Right now, everything she does can get you to doubt what you do.  Making it feel like you can do nothing right.

    It's kind of funny in a way..well not really, but they worry about such things about sending the wrong  message to the kids whereas there actions such as them wanting a separation or a d is sending a bad message to the kids.  

    We can either show our kids a good testimony of Christ in standing for our spouse and marriage.  Or a testimony that reflects selfishness, such as what  our spouses are doing.  Let your testimony shine over hers for the kids to see.

  • Whenever you read a dare, make sure you pray on it seeking Christ in guiding you.

    I know you feel that was a good opportunity to get something for yourself. That actually was not part of the dare. It was to do something unexpected that benefits her, but puts you out of your normal comfort zone. Make sure you read the entire dare it will give you an idea of what the purpose is.

    But the good news is, these type of decisions are certainly better done early because as you grow in the dare you will find a much more fulfilliing journey when you see your own selfishness in your decisions.

  • Thank you everyone...these are all good tips!

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