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re: Day 1: Love is patient

drkacy2b — Thu, 16 May 2013 03:32:29 GMT

Today, I rewatched the movie "Fireproof." I have been struggling with finding a way to change the heart of the man that I love, and I have realized that I'm not the one who can change it. Only God can do that. I bought the book tonight, and have read the introduction, day 1 and the first appendix on leading your heart. I am ready to embark on the day 1 dare tomorrow.

This dare should be fairly easy, as Jeff and I do not live together. While in the past, my patience level has not been the greatest, I have realized that is usually when I'm not walking with the Lord. I am at my most patient when I'm resting in his word. I love Jeff with all my heart, and know that despite everything we have been through the past 17 years, we were always meant to be together. I have nothing left to lose - either Jeff's heart will change, or mine will. Either way, I want to learn to love as the Lord loves me, and that's what this journey is really about.

Kim

re: Day 1: Love is patient

Pamela Rodriguez — Sat, 11 May 2013 02:38:53 GMT

I love my husband so much.. yet it seems like i do everything wrong.. i am trying so hard to keep our marriage alive... yet he refused to see any good in me.. he refuse to let me see my family.. and harps on me over and over again.. he does not sleep with me nor goes to church with me yet he says he is a christian.... help me please

re: Day 1: Love is patient

Hopeful1 — Fri, 10 May 2013 15:53:14 GMT

Hello...

I am a hopeful husband...hoping to win back my wifes heart with Gods help.

She and the kids left just over two weeks ago... I feel devastated and dont really know which way to turn. I watched Fireproof for the second time, and was touched very deeply. I desire to have a great marriage and be a great example to our two young kids....

My wife is not with me but I still want to try the best I can

re: Day 8: Love is not jealous

sharman_spirit — Tue, 07 May 2013 13:24:31 GMT

Today was hard. I have been following the day by day Dares and only in reading other posts did I see I had been trying to still control the situation. My wife has moved back to her mothers with our 4 year old son. I am staying with my cousing a few miles away. My heart is aching and I feel so alone and empty. I am praying more then I ever have... asking God for guidance and love. Tonight I really screwed things up. I told her how I was feeling. How I made mistakes and how I owned them. How I wanted her to let me back into her heart. That I could be what she wanted.

Her response was that she understood, but didnt know if she even wanted that anymore. She saiid her role as a woman had been blurred and that I had done things to place pressure on her that she should not have had. I stopped worl because I couldnt deal with my boss anymore and stayed at home looking after the baby whilst she then had to get wotk to support us. She feels as if I took the role of being a mother away from her. I felt like a coward. I told her someone had to love her and that it may as well be me! I told her I did not want her to be with anyone else and that I would not be able to cope with that.

Even as I write this, I see the manipulation caused by fear of loosing her. I am lost myself. I moved state ( As her parents lived in a different state to us) left behind everything that was comfortable and familiar to follow her. Now I feel I am here alone. I am trying ... but I fear it will not be good enough.

I would appreciate some guidance, I dont know how to be without her, yet I am the reason she is not with me :0(

re: Day 8: Love is not jealous

skacjandbear — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 13:24:43 GMT

God is love. God is a jealous God. Therefore love is jealous. I embrace this as a means by which to keep my focus on our relationship. I am jealous of the time he spends with other women. I am jealous when he holds her while she cries or tends to her children's needs. I am the wife of his youth. 20 years later a young woman married to a man with a dangerous personality disorder and my husband becomes her Hero. ... I can do the 1 Cor. 13. But I don't know if I will ever be not jealous! And let me tell you "no record of a suffered wrong " is a hard bite to chew!

re: Day 7: Love believes the best

Lindsey — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 21:11:13 GMT

This helped me to realize that I have been living in the Depreciation Room for so long that I couldn’t even see the positive things about him anymore. I was dwelling on all the negative. I was holding a grudge & holding too high of expectations that not anyone could meet.

re: Day 2: Love is kind

SicaBelle — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 09:15:47 GMT

Well, I got kinda stuck on this one for a few days. I kept thinking to myself, an unexpected act of kindness? But, how am I supposed to do something unexpected, if he already expects me to do everything!? I'll have to admit I got quite discouraged, but I was also determined that I was going to fulfill this dare, I was not about to get blocked, just when I was getting started.

I finally came to the realization that; yes, he does expect a LOT of me, but how long has it been since I put that extra effort in to try and make sure those things done? When there are small children in the house, it can be easy for those little things to fall by the wayside, so I put in the Extra effort to make sure that those little things he was wanting were done and of course, said nothing negative to him during this time period.

re: Day 1: Love is patient

SicaBelle — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 09:06:04 GMT

My husband and I have been married for almost 11 years. As a matter of fact our 11 years anniversary will be in just a little over a week. Needless to say, we've had our ups and downs, even separated a few times as Satan tried his hardest to break us apart. Anyhow through lots of patience and prayer we've made it to where we are today.

We have 2 beautiful little girls, ages 2 and almost 6 and I have to say that God has truly blessed us bountifully. Our marriage, while intact, could use a little work so I decided to take The Love Dare Challenge on my own. He doesn't know that I am doing this. I have to say that I truly want for for God to work in our lives and for my Husband to be the Spiritual Leader I know he can be for our family. I have seen how God has been working in our lives, ever constantly drawing us back to Him & I'm wanting to take this challenge to kinda get back to where we used to be.

Anyhow, Dare 1, Patience, don't say anything negative at all. Well, I have to say, I've had 11 years worth of practice on that one.

From the moment he woke up, he was trying to start a fight w/ me. Almost like someone was trying to sabotage me from the get go, right? I let him say what he had to say and was able to gently encourage him into a gentler mood. The day went a lot better than it could have, as I was making a deliberate effort to make sure I didn't say anything to set him off, although he did say a few things that had me feeling a bit discouraged and upset, I was able to make it through and we had a good day.

re: Day 3: Love is not selfish

vsmith07 — Thu, 18 Apr 2013 18:39:30 GMT

I don't know if anyone is using this site any more but i sure hope so because no one knows im doing this and i don't want to tell anyone either. I kind of lost my firends and husband all in one blow so i could really use some support

re: Day 1: Love is patient

christina143 — Mon, 01 Apr 2013 04:23:08 GMT

So today is the day of resurrection. I made today easter to start my dare. I was in a 2 year relationship that ended a month ago(not my choice). I bought the book and gave it to him today. I love him uncobditionally but need the dare in all areas of my life. Trying to figure out if the dare will reunite us ormove on depending on gods will. Just heartbroken and have to keep reminding myself that god loves me unconditionally and will see me through this storm and molding process as I embark the love dare as a single woman on day 1

re: Day 1: Love is patient

prap1118 — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 16:16:24 GMT

I have watched this movie so many times and I have been eading the love dare book and trying to practice this daily. Last night was the worest night. I have lost all hope that our marriage could be saved. My wife has hurt me so bad and now my wife is telling me that the man that she is seeing has made her laugh and felt wanted / needed more that I have ever done in our 10 years of marriage. That really ripped my heart out and I'm not sure how much futher that I can go. This is the second affair that she has had on me and I thought that I could overcome this one too but I'm not sure. I have prayed so hard but I feel that she has turned her back on me and God that I'm not sure she will ever come back to me.

re: Day 7: Love believes the best

thandi — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:06:16 GMT

i need to do this, just don't know how. god give me strength, he is seeing someone and it hurts sooo bad.

re: Day 6: Love is not irritable

MrsVGould — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:43:46 GMT

I have to say, my husband and I got into a huge, ugly fight that started with me expressing to him that I don't like him exchanging numbers with other females (especially those I don't know). Apparently, that was a problem and it caused him to say some hurtful things. Eventually, the argument died down, but the pain is still there. I mentioned that I started a program to help our marriage and told him od some other things I have tried. I think he was in a bit of shock, but it hasn't seemed to change anything so far. An apology would've been nice, but no. I'm not important enough for one of those. I'm never good enough for him. Not that he helps me with the countless things he criticizes me for...Lord God helo me!

re: Day 6: Love is not irritable

MrsVGould — Thu, 07 Mar 2013 02:52:50 GMT

I am ready to give up on this. My husband and I seem to be doing better, but not because of this and it's obviously temporary. The same problems are hiding under the surface. He never answered my question from yesterday and I have such a hard time holding my tongue when he says something I don't like. He doesn't appreciate the fact that I care enough to put up with his crap in the first place. I am trying so hard, but there are so many factors that make it so incredibly crazy! Sometimes, I just want to give up. Today is one of those days. I wish I had some kind of encouragement through all of this. :(

re: Day 5: Love is not rude

MrsVGould — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 19:50:51 GMT

Finally talked to him and he said he'd think about it and tell me. Chances are he won't think. He usually doesn't think...or plan...or elaborate. ..but one thing at a time lol. I will ask for an answer later ir remin him to think and write my response .