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Day 9

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  • I am on Day 9. 


    My backstory is that over the past few years I have been pursuing an advanced degree. In the past year, I neglected my wife and my kids somewhat. 

    I thought that I was doing right to try to get it over with regarding school. However, my wife felt very neglected and she became somewhat hardened. We are still married and not separated, but she had said some things that really concern me about how things need to change, we are headed for divorce, and how she is numb on her feeling for me.

    I am doing all that I can and I am on Day 9. I have put school in it's right priority since this incident. I think she has noticed that.

    She will not say I love you or show affection since out blowup last month.

    However, I am hoping things will improve. Today I texted her if I could greet her with a hug and a kiss tonight. She is not they type you would want to just surprise, believe me. She texted back " a hug maybe." I think this shows progress. She did say, but don't push her.

    Hoping and praying things improve as I am in pain. 

  • Welcome.  Try posting next time under the community tab.  it'll drop down to the love dare journal link.  This part of the site doesn't get read much.  The good news is you desire to change.

    Keep in mind this will be a journey, between you and Christ, not you and your wife.  She will be used as a tool to mold you.  do a dare a day, no more, no less. This will keep you from trying to fix this instead of leaving it in God's control and  also keep you from getting in her space that she wants.   Have no expectations of her when you do a dare.  In fact, she may show some anger at times.  Thinking why wasn't he like this before.  

    Do the dares as intended.  Don't text if the dares say to talk in person.  Do not read ahead in the book, other than the appendix, especially about leading the heart.

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