Collaborate without boundaries



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  • I am stepping out of comfort zone here. I typically have a tough time asking for help and being open and vulnerable expressing my feelings. But I don't want this fear to continue. 

    On Thursday this week, my wife left for California to head to a conference this weekend.  This last we went to a couples counselor because she has a 95% feeling she doesn't want to be in this marriage, and she needs space. I started the Love dare earlier this week, and today is day 7.  Since she left we haven't spoken much, other then just a few text messages I have sent to her.  Today's dare is to at some point in the remainder of the day pick a positive attribute and thank her for demonstrating this characteristic. My anxiety around this dare is about calling her and telling her thank you (that if she answers) or text her and tell her. 

    If I call, do I leave a message if she doesn't answer? Do I not call and text her?  Or do I hold on to the dare until I speak to her on the phone or in person?  

  • Welcome.  No reason to be uncomfortable here.  This will be a journey, one between you and Christ, not you and your wife.  She will be used as a tool to mold you.  Do a dare a day, no more, no less.  This will give her the space she needs.  Do not read ahead other than the appendix, especially about leading the heart.  Do not have expectations of her when you do a dare.  Things often get worse before getting better, but this serves purpose.  Do not manipulate the dares to make them easier or because the are scary.  So, call and if no answer, leave a voice mail.  typically do the dares in person, then call, then text or email.  unless the dare says differently.

    Try posting in the section of the site that gets read more.  It's the Love Dare Journal section, under the community tab.  IF you can't find that area, let me know.  I will check back to where you are posting.  

  • Thank you, Tim! I just re-posted to the community.

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