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Re: trying to believe the best....

trying to believe the best....

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  • We have been married 26 years, have 3 sons- 25, 21, and 17; and 2 grand daughters. I take after my dad in that I am not "overly-affectionate" as my husband says. He has been feeling very low the last couple months and it is now the worst low he has ever had in the 29 years we have been together.

    He told me he feels trapped and me trying to "all of a sudden" be affectionate and "fix" things, makes him feel more trapped. Told me he wished he could just start over and that he thinks there is someone out there more compatible with him.

    It has been a rough and trying year-my dad, whom I was very close to, passed away in April right after I found out I am going through menopause. I am 44. I have felt bad about myself, haven't really grieved for my dad because I am trying to also help my mom get through all she needs to, and have apparently neglected my husband more than I thought even though I did the same of cooking, laundry, dishes, etc.

    I am trying really hard to trudge through but he seems unreceptive and won't talk to anyone about depression. I made an appointment for counseling but I am not sure he will go.

    feeling the thread of hope ravel more.

  • Try journaling in the love dare journal section, under the community tab. You will get more help there.  This is a journey, between you and Christ, not you and him.

    He will think this is all fake for a period of time, that you are just trying to win him back and then go to your old ways.  But stay consistent, in time he will see that it is a new you.  Look for no recoginition from him or do not do more than a dare a day.  Let him have the space he may think he needs.

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