I wanted to thank you all for writing down what is going on in your lives. As I read what you have said i can't believe how some of you are living the same life I am. I had felt alone...
As your journey progresses and you read others stories, you will see theirs progress as well. It is a great testimony to each.
glad I'm not the only one on here with a spouse that that says me trying to love her, annoys her in every aspect. I will continue for my walk in Christ, not for her and her walk with Satan.
And as you continue this journey she will reject it more. And she will also take the offensive as her convictions grow. But it will be your testimony that needs to overcome your pride...
hi guys i did not even know about this love dare until last night and my wife has already filed the devorce and will final soon but if i had know about this love dare i would have done it i would have done anything to keep my marriage together but it was hard for me to swallow down those words when my wife said them to me that she did not love me any more and that i had to leave and i got on a bus and left i wished i had known about this challenge but did so i am here to try and learn as much as i can now about it i hopes that one day i will find a woman that i can be with for the rest of my life but i want to make sure i fireproof it first so any advice i can get i would apperciate very much i agree with everyone else hang in there and you will make mine did not but i did not know about the love dare.
Have you gotten the book? A number of marriages have been saved even though divorce was filed for.
It will change your life.
I am not very good at this but here it goes, about Two weeks ago I heard something my step-son was telling his aunt that was not true and instead of trusting my Husband would not leave me I panicked and told him I wanted a divorce (and I didn't ) this was a bad habbit for me, I never really felt secure and always lived in feart of my husband leaving me, so I acted on bad feelings, First off my husband Loved me and always did things to make sure I was taken care of and I never appreciated anything that he ever did for me and I didn't put God first in my life or above my husband, I know I was wrong, anyway today I got a call from my husband telling me he had filed for the divorce and
when I told him that I did't want it alll hes said was that he needed the address Where I was, I told him that I was not gonna give up and that I was Praying that God would put us back together but I have to be honest I just don't feel that strong right now, I have the Love dare and Plan on reading it, I know that God sent me my Husband and I didn't appreciate the gift he gave me and I just knew I had all the answers for my self, And yeasterday God showed me that it was me that pushed my husband away and that I was the one who didn't appreciate or Thank the Lord enough and I know that God is working on me and that this is my last chance to get things right with him, I don't know if God will save my marriage but I do know this I do have to get things right with him and I am asking all of you out there to just Pray with me that this Jurney that God has me on will make me stronger in him
Take the dares, one day at a time. Trust in Christ and leave your husband to him...
Take time and read the appendix... There is a lot ther that will help.
I see it's almost a year since the last post. I bought the book 3 yrs ago when I found out my husband cheated on me. He was so determined that he was so in love with this other woman. She was from Alaska, thousands of miles away. I thought we got through it but now he has cheated on me again with a teacher at school who he sees everyday, unlike the last woman. I didn't complete the love dare last time b/c he said all these little things I did just made him more angry. Now here we are. We are still living in the same house but he is moving out this weekend. This has been going on for 6 months. He won't even look at me or be in the same room with me. He said he is done and that he is numb. He said he wants a divorce and is mad that I am not giving up.
I am a Christian and have been giving this to God and having people pray for me. He is/was a Christian. He plays in the church band for Heaven's sake and is still continuing to contact this other woman and when confronted completely denies it and always has an excuse. How do you do the love dare when you don't live in the same house and he refuses to talk. It's like it kills him to talk to me. We have a 6 yr old son and that is the only thing he says he wants to talk to me about.
It is POSSIBLE to do the dare even if he is moved out. There are quite a few of us in that same situation. Pray about the dare each day. God will provide you the answers of how to complete it to His will. It is AMAZING to see how doors will open to complete the dare when you are putting all your TRUST in Him. Let go of control and give it all to God. Do not worry about the reaction your husband gives regarding the dare. This is Christ molding you. This whole journey is between you and Christ, not you and your husband. He will just be used as a tool. Your husband gets angry because he is dealing with his own guilt/shame/anger. Don't let that stop you. You CAN do this!
The dare is a journey between you and Christ. Not you and your husband. One that Christ will mold you and guide you. It is one that you trust Christ in to do the dares as they are intended. To give up control of your life to Christ. And doing it our way is what has gotten us into this situation anyway.
Now I write that to make this one statement. You quit the dare. Which means you did not trust Christ enough to follow it through. And you called Christ into your life for help. He will not let you go. Christ is patient, He is waiting on you. Take this dare, do it one day at a time, and trust Christ to open the doors each day. And we are here for you daily if you need.
I am in this boat too. My wife said she is done....has no love no emotional feelings for me. We are in the same house but have not shared a bed since May. She goes out with her girls to bars and flirts with guys...She said, in her eyes I AM her ex husband. These dares are hard....but I can not and will not quit on her or our marriage! I will love her as Christ loves me, unconditionally even when that love is not returned.
Keep at it...don't quit now!!!! The old saying is "It's not how many times you get knocked down....i'ts how many times you get up!" Get up one more time then you you get knocked down and you are there!
God Bless you! I am so glad I found this place...all my "friends" made me feel like I am crazy for wanting to save my marriage....some have even dissolved our friendships.
I pray for each and everyone one of you taking this walk. It is the hardest thinkg I have ever done!
But yet the most blessed thing you will ever do!
I feel like I've lived the dare for years, giving and loving. In june he said he wanted out and proceeded to live to show me he had moved on without me. I was ready for divorce and even talked to the lawyer. Then felt led to go back, apologise for where i have faileld in the marriage and so on. So i did it. It was humbling when he said "I knew you would own up". Painful as it was I fought hard and died to self so it's not hurting as much anymore. Now I haven't really done the dares. Just maintaining civility and being nice.
Today he stayed home because he felt ill. I bought clold medication, and cooked chicken soup. I also stayed lingered around in the living room and made small talk for a while just to try to reconnect. Today when i came home, I put on TBN. Guess what wa splaying, "Fireproof"!! What a shock. I think it was confirmation that i need to embark on this. So I will keep trying.
I have reason to believe he's been cheating, enjoying the liberty he gave himself when he said it was over. I really have to keep my eyes on Christ, else no way to continue. I find it easier when I talk with Jesus and surrender to Him each time, because i'm doing it for His sake. That's the only reason.
Please keep praying for me. For some reason my prayer life is sputtering when it should be alive and well. I am trying to get more fervent and I'm trusting God to bring me there.
Then you must get the book and take the journey. Remember the journey is between you and Christ, for you to grow in Him and learn to love as He loves you.
Doing it our way is of what the world taught us and it is what got us here, trust Christ and do the dares.