I began to write a list of things that I soon found I was irritating my spouse over. But it wasn't just at home that I was being this person. It was overall in general. I began to take note of these things, and have found myself asking God to allow my heart to be more helpful. Not just because it's expected of me. More so because as a child of Christ I want to be helpful. This one accomplishment led to me naturally improving other things I was being irritable with. As God has taken hold of my heart, so have my actions of glory towards him.