I am supposed to be on Day 5 tomorrow and I am at a total loss as to how to do it. I know what the issues are that my husband has with me. He has told me a million times what they were -- it was just until yesterday that I actually realized that what I was doing was taking his words LITERALLY. I wasn't stepping back and listening and fully looking at the big picture. I hate that it had to get to this point for me to see my own selfishness in our marriage and I pray that God works on my husband's heart and helps ease his pain.
But that still leaves me with the issue of how to complete tomorrow's dare. He has not spoken to me in over a week except to tell me that it is over. He's done. How do I ask him a question like this when he's not talking to me?
Christ will open the door, but you have to try, you have to do it as the dare is intended. Remember this is between you and Christ not you and your husband right now. Your husband is a tool in this journey, that's it.
I want you to know that you aren't the only person in this boat. I'm on round 2 of the dares, and my wife didn't ansrew this the first time either. Like Sean advised, God will open the door for you. You may also be able to remember recent conversatons where your husband told you things that make him uneasy or angry at you. Also, each one of us knows their own weaknesses, so work on those. I've found that my weaknesses usually parallel the things my wife thinks need work.
And the ones yu don't realize Christ will expose!
Like the other posters stated, God will provide a way to ask this question. This is my 6th round but I've only asked the question 3 times because occasionally I'd think that I knew what he would say or maybe at the time, we were not in communication with each other. God did provide me with the perfect opportunity to ask this question and I did get a response from my husband, "couldn't tell you"; not even sure what this answer means but unlike the past, I'm not going to over analyze the response. I was so nervous doing this dare but I trusted God enough to complete it. Most of our communication is done by text or cell phone because of distance between us. Even after this perplexing answer, we exchanged a couple more texts with each other. God is so Good!
When you leave concerns with Christ, there can only be blessings.... No matter the response.