So I'm on day 5 and I asked my husband if he would tell me 3 things that I do to make him uncomfortable or that irritate him and he just said "I don't know..." in a mildly irritated voice.
I said ok, well mull it over while you're on the computer and you can tell me when you come to bed.
I'm not sure what I got from that except that asking him questions seems to irritate him. LOL
I'm going to go pray and go to bed.
Did I complete today's dare? It doesn't feel like it.
You did. Trusting Christ to do the dares no matter what you think the outcome will be is a big step. When we can trust Christ and not worry about the responses and have no expectations then we are growing in Christ.
When we do not manipulate the dares then we are really looking to Christ to carry us through the outcome.
Thank you for being here, Sean.
I've been reading the forums and you are truly a blessing.
Sean, I have been following on here for a couple days, and your resposes to others are so helpful. I am doing the love dare and just completed day 5. My husband doesn't live at home, we are actually divorced, it was my understanding that the only reason we were filing for divorce was for financial reasons ( long story). that we would work on our relationship and see if we could work things out. After 5 months of him being gone, i called him and told him i loved him and have come to realize and acknowledge all the things i did that were wrong, and that i wanted to work on us. He is very angry. 2 years agos, i was depressed, i felt like he didn't love me anymore, and we were just coexisting. i turned to an old friend (male). when i say i turneds to him, it was just conversations on the phone and text, nothing physical. my husband found out and asked me to stop and i didn't. I know i was wrong, and i know i hurt him very badly. i am so sorry for what i have done, and i want more then anything to fix our relationship and mend our broken family. Him and i had been together 19 years, and had a great relationship up until that point. we shared everything together and did everything together. This is so painful for me. i completed day 5 by asking him those questions, had to do it by email due to him not wanting to talk to me, his response was NO. i didn't say anything else, i just sat and cried. I can't give up on him or us but i am losing hope. Please help.
I asked my fiance those questions yesterday by text because he avoids coming home til I'm in bed or answering his phone so I understand your pain. I received no response. He ignores 99% of my texts. I think the purpose of the dares is not to make them do it with you but to trust God. He knows you did what you're supposed to do as far as the asking now you have to leave it to God and just put your trust and faith in him. He's working behind the scenes and you have to BELIEVE that everything will work out. Prayers and hugs to you.
The dares are a journey. One between you and Christ. Not you and your husband. Take them one day at a time. Do not look ahead. But if you get a moment read the appendix, especially the part on leading your heart.
You trusted Christ enough to complete the dare. The most important thing about doing the dares is trusting Christ to do them the way they are intended and do not manipulate them to your liking. Then to understand it is not the response that makes them a success. It is understanding the humbleness that Christs blesses you with that makes them a success.
You need to get right with Christ first, then love Christ first. This is the only way you can love your husband better than you did in the past. If not, you are still following your heart and living for the moment. And continuing to do things your way is not going to get you there. Heck, we all see where our ways get us!
Dont lose hope. In fact finding Christ is what gives us hope. He is hope! He is love!
Allow Him to mold you in this journey.
Sean, thank you for the insight into doing the dares the way they are intended. This is my second time doing the book. The first time I didn't take it seriously and definitely manipulated the dares for my own use. I would warn others not to do this.
If you get time. To help it may be a good idea to read my journals. Many have gotten insight from them on this journey.