Will I asked my wife if she could do a favor for me and I asked her if she could come up with 3 things that make her feel uncomfortable with me. She ask if she has to do it now and I said no and laid the paper down and the she ask where is this coming from, who told you to do this. I just stated no one. Will she calls my buddy and said that I am leaving all kind of notes around, which really the only one I did was with the gift. That if I do not give her the space that I am out, she would kick me out. So I have a bad feeling about tonight when I go home. I am praying for peace and calmness. Tell her I love her. I really am missing her.
Well I came home and we did talk a little. She said she was creeped out by the letter and gift card I gave and when I ask her the 3 things that made her uncomfortable she felt like I was trying to get somewhere with her or get something from her. I explained no. She stated I do not want to focus on us or our marriage. Once again stated no marriage counsel. When I asked her if she can give me time she stated I can not answer that question till I see my counsel tomorrow. It hurts thinking she may not want us together again. I love her so much and would do anything to get her back. I felt weak last night.
I may be wrong here. But it seems that you are trying to get a response of some comfort from her. That is a manipulation. Do your dares that is it.
Asking about the 3 things. Leave it go. If she does it, Great, if not.... Then commit it to prayer. If she asks again why you are doing things, tell her that you want to change all the things you did wrong. If not for your marriage now, then for your future so you do not make the same mistakes in life.
But to be the testimony you need to be, hand the temptations over to Christ when you have them. And focus on the dares and your walk with Christ.