This dare was hard to accomplish. I didn't want this conversation to interrupted or distracted, so I decided to wait until the evening and I had put my daughter to bed. It felt like we needed privacy and a bit of time, and that is sometimes hard to get in my household. When I asked him if there was anything that I do that irritates him, or makes him uncomfortable all he could say was one thing. He feels that I defend my daughter when he takes a firm stand with her. I thought about it for a little bit, and asked for examples so that I could examine this behavior. He gave a few, and I just continued to think about it. I have come to the conclusion that I am stepping on his toes as he is establishing his place in her life. I need to back away, and let the two of them work out their relationship. Maybe I would handle things differently, but that doesn't make it the "right" way. I learned today that I need to back away. This is really hard for me, because I have been on my own for the last 7 years. It is really difficult for me to take a step back. It is clear that I need to step back in this situation. There may be more, but this one is crystal clear to me today.
Jenni,
Sounds logical... And it is great that you were able to accept the comment... Praise God.
However. As a father. I must point out. There are going to be many times that he, as a father is not going to understand some things. This is where you need to step up.
If you think something is not to point, maybe dont step on toes, but it would be great to give him guidance on the "mother" instincts.
I to thought that at one point. But my wife did the perfect thing. She consulted with me. Before or after situations.