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Re: Day 40. Why can't I do this dare?

Day 40. Why can't I do this dare?

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  • It has been almost 2 weeks since I did day 39. In that time, my wife has asked me to stop what I've been doing & give her space & time to heal. She has finally started counseling for her many issues. This has been a huge blessing & 3 years overdue. When my wife asked me to stop, my initial response was to tell her no, that I love her & will never stop. After 3 days & consulting my counselor, I decided to tell her I still love her & haven't given up hope, but I recognize I need to respect her boundaries & give her space. I also apologized for making her feel uncomfortable. 

    Part of what is making this dare so diffficult is the recent realization that my wife is a narcissist who has been manipulating me & blaming me for all our/her problems for years. This has led me to wonder whether or not I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is abusive to me. 

    Since I agreed to give her space, she has been much kinder & far less combative. She still does not want me in bed with her or to behave like a married couple in any way. So why do I find this dare so hard to do? I feel like I need to start all over again. I need to remind myself to let God lead & abide by His will, not my own. Easier said than done. At the least, I will reread the first 39 days & the "Lead your heart" appendix to get started.

  • If you lead your heart I believe you will rethink wondering if you want to spend the rest of your life with her.  

  • Do your dares no more no less, and the rest of the time focus on Christ for your comfort.

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