44—Love is still Thoughtful
your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other
than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for
I really like this excerpt from the chapter—“Love requires
thoughtfulness—on both sides—the kind that builds bridges through the
constructive combination of patience, kindness, and selflessness. Love teaches
you how to meet in the middle, to respect, and appreciate how your spouse
When beginning the Love Dare, during round one, this did not
really sink in, but second time around it definitely does. This time I am a lot
more in tuned to what each dare’s chapter encompasses especially these first few dares when I was still trying to ‘control’
the situation at the time.
I prayed for how God wanted me to accomplish this one since it
involves communication with my husband. I wanted to make sure I was not doing
it how I wanted, but how He wanted me to. It turned out to be me sending him a
text message (I asked God if he wanted me to call instead and got this overwhelming
feeling of “no”) that simply said, “Happy ‘Friday’! I just wanted to see if you
had any updates on your health. I hope you are feeling better.” This stems from
when I saw him a week ago, he had told me about some stress related health
issues he was going through. I did not get a response, which surprised me in a
way because he had texted me yesterday, but of course that was him initiating
it, not me. Prime example of why I am to not have any expectations for a
response. I did what God wanted and that is what matters.
So wanting to do the dare the way you wanted... But yet not only did you not try to call, you did not even text as the dare required.