I prayed long and hard about this one this morning before reading the dare due to the threat of harassment comments yesterday. I was discouraged last night.... ready to sign the papers. I questioned rather I was just hurting her more by not signing. I had the most amazing prayer time this morning... I was completely recharged. I read Dare 4, prayed again and sent a text to her that read, "Do you need anything... no strings attached". I followed the dare... no more, no less.... and gave the rest to God.
I can't say that I wasn't worried about what response I would receive. I wouldn't have been surprised if I had gotten another nasty text or she called the cops, but I got no response. I'm not going to analyze what that means, but at least I don't have a restraining order keeping from Day 5.
I still have waffled a little on signing. Is refusing to sign though she wants out (even though she doesn't need my signature to get divorced) standing on my marriage or an attempt to control the outcome? Would signing the papers and returning them to her to file be a symbol of giving up or would it be completely giving it over to God.
I still praying over this one... trying not to analyze this but it has been a bit confusing. I want my decision to please God and be free of expectation or manipulation.
Thanks God for giving me another day to please You!
This is my opinion. You will need to pray about this.
Not signing is something you will be doing for Christ. Even though the divorce will still go through you are standing up for Gods intent of marriage. I believe signing the papers would be OK, but by not doing so means you are trying to please God, not her. I think it will be a blessing for you.