I could not really think of what materialistic things he would want except for like a Mercedes which I will not be able to get for him. I did purchase his favorite food for dinner and dessert. Dinner didn't quite turn out how I expected but he did love his food which made me happy.
SO I thought about it deeper what would really make him happy that I could do. He has asked for me to be nicer. So I know I need to make a huge effort to be nice. I know he would love it if I would clean and organize some of the mess I have laying around. Most of the stuff I think about is how I have contributed to the problems in this marriage. I need to put our marriage and him first, I need to speak to him respectfully, I need to love him unconditionally. I know he feels I have treated my friends better than him. I need to treat him like he's the most important person in the world. He has stated that we do not nurture each other. Which is sadly true. I want to support him, encourage him and nurture him.
I will pray about this and ask for GOD's guidance and strength to do some of these things which I know would make a world of difference to him.
I think I know what you meant by saying he has to come first. But make sure Christ is always first. Remember we have a jealous God.
And even he must know, that Christ is first.
Yes I definitely mean he comes after GOD who is and should always be first.
I do want him to know and feel that I put him and our marriage first among any other human relationship. I know I have failed at this in the past.
but make clear that Christ is first. That is a testimony in itself!