Day 37: Love Agrees In Prayer:
I started the day out with prayer. I usually pray every day on my way to work, during work I had sent her a text, just check on her to see how she was feeling. She said, OK but her eyes were bothering her today. I basically told her that I hoped she felt better and that I would see her when I get home. At lunch I had my weekly bible study with my friend from work. Like I have said before we have been studying the verses in the "Love Dare" book and also going over there dares. Well yesterdays dare hit the nail on the head. I have been struggling with this now for I believe a week. So we talked about it and prayed about it and came to the best conclusion was just to come straight out and ask her.
Well yesterday, on the way home I had asked her if she felt up to going to a movie later. Her first response was she didn't know. Later when I asked again she said she had too much work to do and she needed to get the house together. So when I she was working on the computer, I greeted her and then I started gathering up the kids that were home and clothes got folded, floors were swept, dishes were done and I focused on getting the yard together. So it was 90 degrees and I was mowing the lawn. Anyway, it paved the way and my wife was able to focus on her work and not so much the house. When we went to bed, I was exhausted, but we watched some TV and like I said she has been kind of distant and cold. Over the past few weeks she has laid facing me, but the last few nights she has been turning her back to me. Well, I turn off the TV and was laying there and I finally did it, I just came out with it. I asked her "Do you mind if we pray together before we go to sleep?" There was kind of silence and I finally said, I'm not trying to weird you out or anything and she replied that it kind of was. I explained that I pray for us every night before I go to sleep and she said she did too, but we are probably not praying for the same things. I laid there a minute and finally asked her what she prays for, as my heart is in my throat, and she responded that she prays for "Happiness". I was kind of at lost for words, but I was thinking "God" can give you this. At that point I realized she really wasn't a willing participant so I prayed for her, that God would fill that void in her heart with the happiness that she was missing. Tonight, I will ask her again, but this time instead of being taken by everything I will explain to her that not everyone has the same needs or prays for the same things. I will ask her if we can pray together for her happiness.
Stan. As you lay there. Grab her hand, and ask her to allow you to pray for the both of you. She does not need to say anything. Hold her hand and pray aloud for the both of you. This will be a great way to introduce it to her. And I know that you are married etc. But she may be shy about saying anything.
Stan, you did a great job helping her around the house and while the attempt to pray together was awkward, it's a step in the right direction. Sean has a great idea. just take her hand and go from there. She may not say anything and she may not actually pray. But you are making a bold stance as the man in this relationship.