Find a marriage mentor - someone who is a strong
Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that
counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment.
During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
End of December I took personal time to go to the ocean to
“figure things out.” I spent A LOT of time praying and listening to God. It was
in that moment I knew I was to LEAD my heart. I was to FIGHT for this marriage
till the end whether it be sooner or till death do us part. Little did I know
at that time what that journey would entail. When I got home stepping stones
towards “accountability” were put in place for myself—counseling with a
Christian counselor, meetings with the pastor who wed us and his wife, Bible
Study, and Daily Devotions.
I could not be more thankful for God guiding me in ALL of
this. Even before I started the Love Dare journey, He was working! He is ALWAYS
working and it is AMAZING to have your eyes opened to it. I look back and I am speechless.
What resonated in the chapter was, “You must guard
yourself against the wrong influencers. Everyone has an opinion and some people
will encourage you to act selfishly and leave your mate in order to pursue your
own happiness. Be careful about listening to advice from others.”
Even though this dare was completed before I began The
Love Dare journey by starting counseling (thank God for that connection!) I
have had to continue to ask God to direct my decisions and discernment. Honestly,
I feel like this is the first time in my life I have truly stood for what I
believed in and not cared what other people think. I know what is TRUE and I
stand by it every day. It is the hardest path I’ve ever had to follow, but know
God is directing me.
I have seen the destruction wrong influencers can have—I just
look at my husband’s influencers. I am being told to fight from the get go, he
is being told to follow his heart and pursue his own happiness. He is surrounded
by divorced friends/coworkers/family. I am not giving up though. God can still
work in him.
And these people will not understand. Flesh cannot understand the actions of the spirit. But deep down they will respect it, of course without anyone knowing. But that is your testimony. Showing people how Christ changed your life and the happiness that comes out of even the most painful times.