Find a specific, recent example when your spouse
demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend
them for this at some point today.
unfortunately took a lot of thinking, but I was able to come up with something—in
December. It was right before the biggest “blow up” of our marriage. My husband
had agreed to watch Fireproof with me, which surprised me because I knew we
were not on the same page with our faith. After watching the movie he then
agreed to start the Love Dare with me. On day 3—Love is Not Selfish, the dare
was, “Buy your spouse something that says, I
was thinking of you today.” He had come home with my favorite coffee from
Starbucks, an ITunes gift card, and a really sweet card (cards are a rarity
from him) where he wrote, “I look forward to our new journey together.” My
heart melted and at the same time feeling a lot of guilt because my heart was
not completely in working on the marriage at that time, but his was—to the
point where he was willing to do the Love Dare, something I know he was very
from the chapter reads— “Love rejoices most in the things that please God. When
your mate is growing in Christian character, persevering in faith, seeking
purity, and embracing roles of giving and service—becoming spiritually
responsible in your house—the Bible says we should celebrate it.”
Although I did not realize it at the time and highly doubt
my husband did too—he was growing in Christian character in that moment. He was
persevering in the faith of marriage. I was not at that time and the next day
some truth was revealed where it shut my husband down to working on our
marriage and The Love Dare went out the window. I look back now and realize God
was working in us even then. Two months later I picked up the book again and
started this journey myself (as it is meant to be done) that has changed me in
ways I never could imagine.
I was able to express to my husband awhile back what I
mentioned above—that he melted my heart when he watched the movie with me, was
willing to start the Love Dare despite how uncomfortable he was with it, and
the sweet card he gave me. I admitted I screwed it up.
I believe deep down, even though my husband disregards
anything having to do with my walk with God—to the point I have been repeatedly
called selfish, that there are seeds that have been planted in his own “spiritual
walk.” He always lights up when he has talked about a youth group trip to
California when he was younger (his first encounter with Christ). He went to
church with me when we first started dating. Unfortunately, a bad experience
took place there and he has not been able to get back on that path to Christ
since. I could not change him even though I thought I could. Eventually years
later, I diverted off my own path with Christ to a place I never thought
possible, which brings me to where I am now.
I now know that only God could change me and only God can change
my husband. My devotion for today reiterated all of this—“All things are
possible with God (Mark 10:27). How easily we forget this! Whether the issue is
salvation for those who are far from God or some other matter of faith, the
principle is the same: All things are possible with God. We often limit our
vision to what we know to be within the realm of possibility—not as God defines
possibility, but as we define it. We set ambitious—but realistic—goals. We pray
for impressive—but conceivable—miracles. We hope for divine—but plausible—resolutions
to our problems. But we forget and need to hear it again: All things are
possible with God!”
…even my husband coming to Christ…and my marriage
reconciling. I know God does not promise to grant me everything on my agenda,
but He does promise to meet real needs and to support real ministry in response
to real faith. His track record is impressive. Never have His purposes been thwarted
by circumstances too demanding. Never has His strength fallen short of the
need. What more could I want for my husband right now than to experience Christ’s
love and light?!? All things are possible with God!
All things are possible. There is no doubt. And one of the greatest gifts is that we are forgiven for our sins, Christ paid that price for us on the cross.
With that, we are able to lay our burdens upon Him and focus on our testimony here.
Your story from day 1 is a testimony to others. Remember that. And with your journey continuing and your husbands not, Christ needs your testimony more than ever now.