Doing the dares, praying for both of lives to receive Gods will, and trying my best to let her go. It's getting easier to let her go everyday. She's pushing me further away, and I'm letting her. The way things are right now, it's going to take a miracle by God for my wife to have a change of heart.
She did tell me she would give counseling another shot, which surprised me. We'll see how it goes and hopefully a word will be spoken or a gesture made that will soften her heart and lead her toward God.
Focus on things above. Remember we have a jealous God and when Christ is not first, we cannot get things right.
As you let her go, replace that void with things above.