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Day 32 - Love Meets Sexual Needs

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    Day 32—Love Meets Sexual Needs


    “If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today. Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what they need from you sexually. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.”


    No great love making story here today. However, we did see each other, which was the first time since he moved out. I had to meet him at the Comcast store to switch over everything in my name for the house. I was all smiles. I was genuinely pretty darn happy today. He sure didn’t look like it though. I feel God working in me every day and my eyes continue to be open to seeing His work being done.


    In all honesty, despite how much I want my husband back and for him to want me in an intimate way, I feel God telling me to have boundaries. Should he want to get intimate, I would not allow it at this point because I am not going to be sleeping with someone who may still be sleeping with someone else right now. It is something I would want to talk to him about first. I am not going to allow myself to be used no matter how much I want to be with him.


    In God’s timing I look forward to what this reads— “All the things the Love Dare entails—patience, kindness, selflessness, thoughtfulness, protection, honor, forgiveness—will play a role in renewing your sexual intimacy. How beautiful it really is. When the love of Christ is the foundation of your marriage, the strength of your friendship and sexual relationship can be enjoyed at a level this world can never know.”

    I never thought about intimacy in that way. I always thought about it as just pleasing one another and often times inconvenient (might as well continue to be honest). Why not bring up another weakness of Jenn? The Love Dare does a darn good job of it. J Unfortunately, there is A LOT of healing that needs to take place before I believe I am going to be at such a “beautiful place” with this. I know in time with God’s strength it will happen.

  • I understand you thinking here. What I dont understand is you took control back on doing the dares and did it your way.

    And without Christ, we have NO clue what intimacy really is. At least I didnt.

    And I do not think you are correct in the healing comment. What needs to take place to get to such a beautiful place is your trust in Christ....

  • I responded about the "taking back control" in my journal entry.

    Regarding healing - I am glad you do not agree with that.  I've been thinking a lot about it since this dare on Wednesday because I have yet to lose faith in my marriage, so when we reconcile there will be intimacy, which makes me think about the affair, BUT I then remind myself, God has carried me through all of this thus far, He NEVER leaves, so as you said my healing is TRUSTING in Him. It actually hit me when I was in my counseling session because I said, "I am not quite sure how to go about healing from his affair, but think this time apart  from my husband will help in that." Driving home I realized - dang right it will - I am getting closer and closer to God everyday during this time alone. My trust gets deeper and deeper in Him. It is a fantastic feeling.

  • It is simple. The more you depend on Christ the more the voids are filled by Him. And as long as you try to heal your way... Well let me put it this way. You have done everything your way up until this journey, and you see where it has gotten you.

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