I have one really big thing that I have never given up trying to change in my hunny that he has told me that I expect too much. He smokes. It is not a good thing, but he won't quit. He has made several halfhearted attempts to quit in the hope of getting me off his back about it but he has no real intention of giving it up. So for this dare, I chose to let it go. I have been very hard on him about it. At first I tried to be supportive and encouraging but lately I have been disrespectful to him when it comes to this. He knows how I feel about it and he knows those feelings won't change, but he also knows that I am truly sorry for being difficult with this. I will just let it be. I promise to not harp on it any longer. Turning this one over to God as well. It seems that I have been doing a lot of turning things over to God lately.
I was reading Matthew 7 before I read the dare today, and it is funny how they tied together. I have been very judgmental with this issue. He has tried to turn it around, saying I could never just walk away from something I really love, like chocolate and soda. I didn't eat chocolate or drink soda for a whole year just to prove to him that I could. I felt that if I could give something up like that, then he could too. But it didn't make a difference. I am still struggling with letting this go completely and I am praying for the ability to truly let it go.
As a girl, I would think about what my future would be like, what kind of house I would live in, what kind of man I would marry, things like that . Nothing has come about like I had dreamed of when I was little. There have been so many twists and turns along the way. I take it each day as an adventure now.
Leaving things to God is awesome. Leave it with Him and you are not bothered anymore. Don't waste the energy for things you can do nothing about. The funny part is when you do that, you come to realize how much of it is selfishness and control.... We just justify with "proper" reasoning that is us lying to ourselves.
On your last thing. You can have everything you dreamed of. In fact, I also had dreams of the perfect life with the perfect wife. I chased that dream even after being married. But I did not find it until I found Christ. It was not until I trusted Him that I realized my dreams were just that. A dream. Because the reality is so much better than I ever could have dreamed.