I had a lot of unrealistic expectations of her when we married on what a wife should be like, and I felt that she did always try to live up to those expectations. I know that was wrong and I must become her biggest encourager instead. She also has unrealistic expectations of me - I obviously felt really short and that's why I'm here. I pray that we will at some point get a chance to talk about this face to face. It is up to God though, not up to me.
Lord oh God - Help me eliminate unrealistic expectations of my spouse so I can love her unconditionally like you called me to... She does not need to be a perfect wife because our marriage is made up of two imperfect persons united by God. Let me be her biggest encourager the biggest fan in everything.
Selfishness is stronger than you ever thought when you learn what it really is. This was one of the hardest things for me to learn. It made me sick.
But God is changing all of that for you. Praise Him...