I take responsibility for the failures in our marriage and I took them to God and asked for forgiveness. I took them to her and asked for forgiveness, because "Love is responsible and is willing to admit and correct its faults and errors up front." and not wait for the other person to admit wrongs - that's like making Love conditional, loving only when the other person does something.
I "swallow my pride and seek forgiveness regardless of how my wife responds." Actually, it's even my right to divorce her due to her unfaithfulness but I chose not to, I chose to admit my wrongs and asked for forgiveness. I chose to forgive her for all the hurts she caused me and I chose to seek reconciliation... even when she does not want reconciliation, when she does not know how much hurts she caused me, when she still wants to break up, when she gives me no signs that she wants to work on the marriage and when she may still be having affairs.
It was not until my wife and I reconciled, did I realize that God had bigger plans for us....
When we forsake Him, and think we can go on without Him, He will show us that we need Him in every aspect of our life.
I praise Him daily for the marriage we have, because without Him it would be a normal marriage if at all.