If you ask any of my friends including my wife what some of my top qualities are, being responsible will always be mentioned. I always follow through on everything that I do. I would not promise something and not do it to the best that I can, never. It is helping me to keep on this journey with God. However, this chapter talks about taking responsibility in a different way - recognizing my areas of wrongdoing and bring those matters to a head. Too often I just do do do, but never think about while doing some of those things I hurt or neglect people around me. She is hurting and I'm still doing... I had loved too many other things but not her.
And not Christ... But now you see and understand. You must get right with Christ first, then your wife.
And then you need to remember we have a jealous God, put him first, and others will fall into place.