I had, what my husband considers to be, an affair last September. He was moved out of the house and I considered us separated and before he moved back in I told him about it.
I think it is too early to ask him for his forgiveness. This is something that everyone takes differently, deals with differently and comes to terms with differently. Do I skip the dare for now and wait until I think he is ready?
No. You need to do the dares you are tasked with. You need to look at this as God's plan for you. He will never give you more than you can handle. And part of the process in getting right with God is you confessing to God, then confessing to your spouse. To get right with God, you need to do both. You husband ready for it or not, this is your journey to be right with God. Husbands acceptance has nothing to do with it.
Margie, I believe God is sovereign enough to have you do each of the dares on the day He has willed you to do them. So while you feel like it is too soon, He's always right on time according to His will.
I know it is hard to believe at times. But Leslie is Sooooo right. God is never late!!!! Believe me. There are so many times that I said it was to late and look at us now. Praise him... WOW when I think about it....