When we met with our christian marriage counselor last week this was what I did. I even told her that I am commited to forgive her if she wants out of the relatioship, and let her go.
Our counselor asked her if she had ever heard this before, to which she replied no. He proceeded to ask her what she thought and she wants to believe that this is a new me, but shes seen this before. Shes already made up her mind and wants out.
This is why testimony is important. Of course she will think it is all a ruse, and until you overcome that (through Christ) her thoughts will not change