Through today's dare God revealed to me that comparing my husband to other husbands relationally is just as damaging to our marriage as if I were physically lusting after someone. I realized that what I see in another man's behavior towards his wife may not be his usual behavior. It's still not fair for me to unknowingly place those expectations on my husband. I need to be thankful for the wonderful qualities he possesses and pray for the ones that need work. My form of lust is wishing he would treat me like that guy over there treats his wife.
This could also be a form of jealousy... And even though there is a jealousy that is justified, this one is not.
This stems from a selfish piece in us. This is the time to focus on the Lord. And allow the Holy Spirit to work on your heart, to accept your husband and desire his love. And while you take this journey take advantage of listening to what Christ is teaching you through all this. And you will have a marriage that is better than what you have desired from others.