Day 23—Love Always Protects
“Remove anything that is hindering your
relationship, any addiction or influence that's stealing your affections and
turning your heart away from your spouse.”
reading through this chapter and was easily pinpointing all of my husband’s “enemies”
in our marriage, but was humbly reminded that this journey is not about my husband, so this dare is
not to focus on him, but on me and my walk with Christ. With that said, these
are areas that I need to continue to
put my armor on for—
Harmful influences (certain habits that drain
time from spouse/family)—
would definitely fall under this category for me, however a couple months back
I had the random desire to get rid of our DVR player and reduce our cable to
just basic. I now only watch two-three hours of television a week. That is
shockingly less than what I used to watch (2-3 hours a day!) I now see the blessing in this decision that I
do not think ultimately was mine, but God prompting me to do it. The internet
is my other influence that is harmful because of the time it can consume. I
have slowly reduced this in order to create more margin for my personal time
Unhealthy relationships (friendships that
undermine your marriage and/or opposite-sex relationships that draw you away
I had an unhealthy relationship with a guy friend where boundaries were unfortunately
crossed. Communication has seized.
Shame (speaking negatively about your spouse in
simple - this is an area I really need to work on.
Parasites (anything that latches on you or your
spouse that sucks the life out of your marriage usually in the form of an
typically comes to mind when thinking about this area is perhaps gambling, pornography,
alcohol, drugs, etc. My parasite, however, is none of those things, but rather
an addiction to perfection. Perfection, which can never be reached easily sucks the life out of a marriage. Through
this journey, this is one area I can see changing the most in myself. I still
have a LONG way to go with it, but at least I know it can happen with Christ
working in me.
chapter also talks about the roles of wives and husbands. “The wife has a role
as protector in your marriage. You must guard your heart from being led away
through novels, magazines, and other forms of entertainment [Jenn inserts movies
and music here] that blur your perception of reality and put unfair
expectations on your husband. ‘The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish
tears it down with her own hands’ (Proverbs 14:1).” Speaking for myself, fantasy
love is everywhere I turn making me easily covet a romance that cannot be found
in the flesh, but only in God’s unconditional
love for us.
Each day I
am humbled, strengthened, awed, hopeful, and filled with more love, patience,
and grace. Only one MAN can do that in its truest form!
responded in the journal today.