This is my first post, I've started writing several ones before but never had the courage to post them... maybe I wasn't ready for feedback yet :)
Anyway, day 23 is about controlling one of our addiction. I think my main addiction is social media and especially checking on my husband's page on Facebook and Instagram. I used to check his Snapchats too but I decided to cancel my account a few weeks ago before I started my love dare journey and I was in a very bad place with him. Now that I think about it, Snapchat was easy to give up because it didn't allow for much control. I could only see his public posts or direct messages to me. I have no idea who else he talks to on there. FB and IG are harder to give up because I find myself always looking at his page, looking at who likes his posts or comments on his pictures. As you can tell by now I really struggle with jealously and control but the love dare has been extremely helpful so far. I am really going to make an effort to stay off his pages and see what that does :) My husband knows the love dare but doesn't know I am doing it right now, however, I've mentioned to him that I am trying to have more time for prayer and that I am reading a devotional. We have been talking a lot more in the last couple of days and I have shared with him that the more I ask God to change him, the more God is revealing things about myself that I need to work on. The more I focus on myself and being a good person, mother and wife, the less I find myself worrying about what he may be doing behind my back. And consequently, he has been opening up to me more about how he feels and what he is going through. Everyday I look forward to the next dare and to see what it will bring! I know things are not perfect and its going to take time to recover from what has happened especially in the past year, but I feel comfort from being reminded every day that God has a bigger plan for us and everything will work according to His will. Thank you all for sharing your experience, it has been extremely encouraging to know that we are not alone in this. - E.
Welcome E. YOu may have heard then how this has been described as a journey, one between you and Christ, not you and your husband. that he will be used as a tool to mold you. And to do a dare a day, no more, no less. and do the the dares as intended without manipulating them such texting when you should be talking to him in person.
Do not read ahead other than the appendix, especaially on leading the heart.
Try posting next in the love dare journal section, it is the tab under the community link. That area of the site is read more than this area.
Don't worry about his reactions or trying to let him know what you are doing. He will notice the changes even if he doesn't act like he apprecatates your efforts.
Things often get worse before it gets better, but this will serve purpose.
Hi Tim, thank you for replying! I have checked the journal section, I can read the posts on there but I don't have the option to post myself... am I missing something? thank you! - E
Try clicking on your name at the top after you log on to the site. And then part way down on the right hand side, you should see a red bubble that may say journal or entry or something like that. Then click on it and the link that appears that says Elisa's journal or somethign like that. If it this doenst work, let me know here. This site is sometimes hard to work on. Also, sometimes the site will time you out. So it may be best to type on a word doc and then copy and paste to this site. I think the timing out happens more when replying to others though.