Hi all, for some reason, i find Day 2 challenging (unlike Day 1).
First off, our marriage isn't really rocky, in fact it is in better shape.
After watching the movie, i reckoned, why wait for a "reason"?
So now I am in, though i don't feel the necessity to rush.
I also do not plan to eventually divulge it to her, but instead to do it in secret till we get older, repeating the dare again and again.
"Unexpected Gesture as Act of Kindness":
Now the challenge for me (with my relatively fortunate my situation), is the "unexpected" criteria.
I thought of buying something, but i feel it too easy, and hence i decided to not involve money.
The normal things i do for her wont make it "unexpected" hence my dilemma.
Could you post some suggestions? or things you did?
I hope to gain more understanding especially as i plan to do this again and again.
This list may also help others along the way.
Thanks and regards. God bless.
Advice that Sean will reiterate too - this is a journey between you and Christ. You may not realize it now, but in time if accepted, you will. With that said - do not let your wife know you are on this journey. It is best to be kept between you and God right now. You are right - you don't have to have a 'reason' to be on this journey. You don't have to hit rock bottom like a lot of us have. Even better than you haven't! :) As far as ideas...you can read through the various day 2 entries on the forum for lots of ideas. However, I recommend praying about it. God will tell you what He wants you to do. Just focus on each dare as the day comes. Don't read ahead. Do the dare as it says or to the best of your ability. Do not manipulate. Looking forward to following you on this journey.
Jenn hit the nail on the head. This journey will allow you to take what Christ blesses you with and be a testimony. With that and the ability to have Christs love your oneness with your wife will be like it never has been.
Take a moment and look through the appendix. Some great stuff there. Epecially the part on leading the heart.
An act of kindness. Well, think back of things that your wife may of needed or desired. Massage, you cooking dinner, clean, shop... Or heck why not just take some time and just let her relax and wait on her hand and foot.
Thanks for the replies. Yeah it seemed i am making things more complicated than necessary. And may actually be focusing on the wrong things.
Nonetheless, i managed to do this by helping her with my son's homework. The challenge there was that i was very tired that day and still managed to do something for her.
Also, she is starting to notice things, and may actually be getting suspicious that i did something wrong and is doing these to amend for that, haha.
Need to slow down a little.
Focus on Christ in this journey. Your wife is just a tool that is used. This journey is really between you and Christ. These dares will expose many things about yourself, but when you commit to Christ to lead you, thinks will be so much easier.
I had the same problem. There is nothing i could do that is not expected of me and that I do not already do everyday. I ended up asking him and he could not think of anything. What I ended up doing was hooking up a moniter to his labtop so he now has dual screens. But that was not unexpected. But it does make his life a little easier.
Im on day 12 and most of the dares have been really hard because I do them all already, I wish they would give unusuall suggestions instead of the things that are already expected of a wife.
Stop justifying what you already do. Seek Christs guidance in the dares. And you do not always need to think big. Remember the things you already do are expected by him, so think it out.