42—Love is still Kind
addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one
unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.”
The chapter breaks kindness down into four categories—
*Gentleness—you’re careful how you treat your spouse, never
being unnecessarily harsh. You’re sensitive. Tender. You speak the truth in love.
*Helpfulness—you meet the needs of the moment.
*Willingness—you are agreeable. Rather than complaining and
making excuses, you look for reasons to compromise and accommodate.
*Initiative—you think ahead then take the first step. You
see the need, then make your move.
Before starting the Love Dare, I was kind—but for selfish
reasons. Now I can honestly say I am being kind out of a selfless heart. “Love
determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to no reward. You
will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.”
I definitely don’t seek reward for the dares anymore. It
would be endless disappointment if I did. I have learned to go into each day
without expectations. Christ will lead me.
I had a couple ideas for today’s dare, but as mentioned Christ
will lead me…and He certainly did…into not
carrying out my ideas. Haha. I realized what I am doing with our house is
definitely an unexpected act of kindness. With the help of my family we are
finishing the remodel work that was started five months ago (not for the reason
my husband and many others think though). Ironically, my husband called me to ask
if he had mail. Since he did, he was coming by tonight to pick it up, so he
would obviously see what has been done on the house. I was not going to be
home, but I think he is going to be quite surprised. I almost was going to
change my plans for tonight to be sure I was home to see him, but felt God
telling me not to...
That will certainly take out any chance to point things out that may look selfish. Again it is all apart of testimony, let them notice and if they are to blind to notice, then they are to selfish to care.