Well, I attempted to perform this dare last night to no avail. We had a particularly intense counseling session yesterday, so I am not exactly surprised that she decided she wanted to be alone last night. I'll be attempting this dare again and again until I complete it, though.
And some horrible things have come to light. Probable infidelity. Other equally loathsome activities. Lying about the infidelity. I need some peace right now and am suffering through this. God will carry me through, I know, but how much more heartache can I take before I say forget it and let my wife destroy herself? I'm truly at a loss. I need to pray some more and maybe I'll get the peace I'm looking for. Father, I need some help right now. I need it badly and you're the only Source for it. Change my heart. Help me forgive. Help me be the kind of man you want me to be! Help me walk through this and see her as You do, a sinner in need of a Savior. An object of Love, despite her failings! Please help me oh God!
Aaron, sorry to hear.
But I see something that is pretty amazing. Your willingness to forgive. Which is awesome. Your desire to forgive. Which leads me to believe that you are going to forgive.
People around you will not understand that ability to forgive, but Christ will. Because it is unconditional love for you that will allow you to love unconditionally.
Your testimony will shine through this situation and the desires of your heart will be blessed.
Sean, my question is this: Should I ask her about this or not? That is the question I have been trying to wrestle with today. I've been praying and no answer has come yet. I don't know what to do about this. Do I have to tell her that I'm forgiving her for all of this? Or should I just do it and not mention it? I'm really at a loss as to figure out which course of action to take.
So you are not sure. What has led you to believe that? If it is something that is pretty certain, then yes. But if it is just assumption then no.
You cannot tell her you forgive things that are not happening. But for things you know for sure then you must get right with Christ by getting right with her. That would include forgiveness.
Focus more on your journey, you dares. This is where you are going to gain strength and by doing so, you will become a testimony in her life.